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Discussion in 'Parent Emeritus' started by pasajes4, Aug 9, 2015.

  1. pasajes4

    pasajes4 Well-Known Member

    My son is deteriorating rapidly. He is hyper focused on not being locked on a ward. He is resisting medications and therapy. I know I can't have him at home the way he is, but I don't know how long they will keep him if he continues to be noncompliant. He screams and cusses me out every time he calls.
  2. in a daze

    in a daze Well-Known Member

    I am so sorry, Pasa. I would not let him come home. Let the social worker do his/her job and find a placement for him. Maybe best if you don't take his calls.

    When does he turn 18?
  3. Tanya M

    Tanya M Living with an attitude of gratitude Staff Member

    Pasa, I'm so sorry. I'm glad you know that having him in your home is not the answer.

    I agree with in a daze.

    ((HUGS)) to you.

  4. Copabanana

    Copabanana Well-Known Member

    PASA, have you applied for SSI for him?

    If they discharge him, there are placements in the Community Mental Health system. The social worker will arrange this.

    I agree with the others. Nothing will be helped if you become a victim to this. You are all he has at this point.

    If he does not accept treatment, he still requires containment and structure. A parent no matter how competent, cannot provide this to the extent that a nearly grown man needs.

    Stay strong, PASA.
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  5. Lil

    Lil Well-Known Member

    No words of advice here, I'm afraid. Just please know that you and your son are in my prayers.
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  6. Seeking Peace

    Seeking Peace Member


    I agree allow the social worker to assist now. We are not equipped as parents to provide that type of help and treatment. Sometimes loving your child means allowing them to go where they really can get help. It's hard, but I think in this case it's best. I worry for your safety too....
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  7. SeekingStrength

    SeekingStrength Well-Known Member


    I am reading along and you are in my thoughts tonight. The input you have received sounds very sensible.

  8. Freedom08

    Freedom08 Member

    I agree with Seeking Peace. Big hugs [emoji173]️
  9. dstc_99

    dstc_99 Well-Known Member

    Im so sorry! It seems like his time incarcerated has him pretty traumatized. I understand he isn't ok to roam the streets but at the same time it seems almost worse to keep him locked up again after he served his time. Of course I realize he also got caught smoking marijuana so he probably broke probation.

    I really hope they find a way to get him some help.
  10. Childofmine

    Childofmine one day at a time

    Pas, keep pushing for the system to find a solution. It is clear that his anger is focused on you, and you cannot be his solution.

    Keep us posted here please, and let us know how you are coping. I am sorry you are in this situation today and please know we can about you and about him. I am praying the next steps start to become clearer. Warm hugs.
  11. recoveringenabler

    recoveringenabler Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Reading along Pasa, I'm here too, sending prayers for both you and your son........big hugs to you......
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