Simple definition of what is a boundary
- Thread starter Tanya M
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Perfect!
Sherril2000
Active Member
Love this! I'm still learning to set & maintain them & stop being a doormat!
That's great Sherril. The great thing about boundaries is they can be adjusted as needed, sometimes you need more and sometimes you need less.
Sherril2000
Active Member
You're right but I'm sure right now I need more! My son is still in jail, & I'm hoping he's going to get himself together when he gets out. But I have to remind myself that's his responsibility, not mine. I've laid out the rules he has to abide by if he wants to life here. I refuse to fall back into giving in to his manipulative ways ever again!
Sherril2000
Active Member
Thank you! I'm learning I have to.
Scent of Cedar *
Well-Known Member
To this, I would add that people who are very healthy seem to have unbreachable boundaries without an iota of guilt.
Not that situations are not complex to them, but that they have an unerring instinct, not for "This is right for me, and I deserve, and you blah, blah, blah.", but for "This is fair."
Simple.
And I think they never think of it again.
I see that in D H.
That concept of what is "fair" is how he guides himself in all his dealings.
I think that must be what a healthy boundary looks like.
No blame.
Cedar
Not that situations are not complex to them, but that they have an unerring instinct, not for "This is right for me, and I deserve, and you blah, blah, blah.", but for "This is fair."
Simple.
And I think they never think of it again.
I see that in D H.
That concept of what is "fair" is how he guides himself in all his dealings.
I think that must be what a healthy boundary looks like.
No blame.
Cedar
