I posted a couple of months ago about my father and the vultures in my step-family who descended the moment they learned their mother was terminally ill. They wanted her to give them all her cash and investments plus title to the house where she lived with my father, effective immediately. I took my father to an attorney so he could learn his rights, which were considerable. His wife and her kids instantly focused on me as an evil person out to 'get her money'. My net worth is fifteen times hers. I was never interested in her little bit of money. I just wanted my father not to be ripped off after sixteen years of marriage and spending his entire income, plus cashing in all of his assets, to support the two of them. They always assumed he would die first and she would need her assets to live on. But now, with her dying first, she doesn't consider that he needs any assets to live on. After a couple of months of lawyer meetings that I paid for, and eight-hour car trips (each way) on my part, my father has informed me that he'll return all gifts I sent him, that he's happy to stay in the house he renovated but his wife gave away, at the pleasure of her kids, that he doesn't want to be near his own family, that his only priority is his wife's comfort. And he has made out powers of attorney for property and health care that name my siblings but leave me off. This is his decision. But I wish he'd been up-front with me from the start, so I wouldn't have had to drive those eight-hour white-knuckle trips through upstate New York and Ontario in January and February, and I wouldn't have had to pay all those lawyer's fees, and I wouldn't have been deluded that he cared a d*** about me or my sisters or our kids. At least I know now. Sorry - thanks for letting me vent.