Unbelievable. These kids are like magnets. I was wondering why she was so needy and why difficult child was so anxious if he couldn't get ahold of her. On one hand, it's great that he's caring and showing compassion for another person. on the other hand, he doesn't have the wisdom and coping skills to deal with-this. His girlfriend is living with-her mom and step dad. According to her (through him), her mom berates her, calling her an idiot, stupid, whatever, and her step dad is an alcoholic. I've met them and of course, couldn't tell much from the few minutes we spent together, except that the step dad was busy with-Christmas lights one time, and then another time, stayed put in his chair when I came in and never stood to greet me, although he said "hi" from the chair. The mom answered the door. girlfriend spends weekends with-her bio dad and step mom. The biodad is super-strict and short-tempered, but the step mom is wonderful. girlfriend doesn't think she can trust any adults (apparently her parents on on their 2nd or 3 marriages) and hasn't told anyone about her cutting except for difficult child. He said she uses a knife, and always wears long sleeves and long pants. Even in the summer. I would love to tell the school counselor, just to keep an eye on the girlfriend, but don't know if I should. I have many more questions for difficult child, but if I keep grilling him, he'll cut me off. husband and I told him not to tell her that she told us, because she'll have a fit. It's a breech of confidence. on the other hand, it's good for adults to know. Just in case.