So my youngest and the leasy succesful of my children caused some issues in my family. So for several months he moves 300km away mostly to get a job. I underatand him where we live its not a good job market but my wife is quite upset on him because he got a job well stocking shelves and another one as a security guard. I am proud of him I want him on his own 2 feet and he achieved that. But my wife thinks he can do better and well he says he can not. I am trying to stay neutral here but something happened. We planned to visit my son for the christams holliday as we have free time then in a argument my son said to that we should not come if we are gonna argue about his future again. I wanted to go to him he will work on hollidays and can not come. So here is the thing my wife said she will not go because she does not accept the conditions and said that I should stick with her decision and not go to him on hollidays. We could have a nice holliday here with oldest also but I do miss him and I really do not care about his decisions about his future but I do not want to undermine my wife and her decisions. Any advice?