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seems so huge since it's been so long since Aly has had any bad behavior at all, anywhere!!
She came home from school today with a referral for "biting another student, being disrespectful, harrassment/bullying, physical aggression/fighting. This results in Aly being benched tomorrow for lunch recess. I am frustrated, as this sort of punishment does not work for her. We have talked about this at her IEP meeting till we are blue in the face. Guess it's time for us to call another meeting!
Aly's first take on the situation was that D and S were fighting, Aly got in the middle of it, J came up behind her and shoved her into D which made her fall onto D and D punched Aly in the arm so Aly bit D on her arm.
After she calmed down a bit, she disclosed that D was being mean to S so Aly got involved to try stop them fighting but D got mad and "said an ugly word to Aly" so Aly got mad and bit her. Aly won't tell me what D said, but she has called Aly the "N" word on several occasions, so I wouldn't be surprised if that was it.
This shocks me! Not that she would get into the middle of someone else's battles/issues, that's classic Aly, but she has not been violent other than one shoving incident last year.
Aly said she is the only one who got a referral, and with the one she had earlier in the year, if she gets one more, she will have in school suspension! I will be calling the VP tomorrow morning first thing, he had already left for the day by the time she got home off the bus.
Aly just had a psychiatrist appointment last week and we got to boast how well she is doing and psychiatrist was talking about titrating her off of the Trileptal over the summer. :smile:
I tried not to make a huge deal of this with Aly yet, as the referral only tells the infractions, not the story behind what triggered the behaviors. I did talk to her about bringing her "higher power" into her heart when she is feeling angry or frustrated and to really try hard to walk away from others issues. She is sad and mad at herself, crying.
I feel so bad for her. I don't want her to be known as the school bully. Why can't our kids just have a fun childhood? Why is every "typical kid fight" turned into a huge thing because OUR kids have issues so everything MUST be examined/talked about/behavior modification/ blah blah blah!
Anyways, thanks for listening!
:sad:
Vickie
She came home from school today with a referral for "biting another student, being disrespectful, harrassment/bullying, physical aggression/fighting. This results in Aly being benched tomorrow for lunch recess. I am frustrated, as this sort of punishment does not work for her. We have talked about this at her IEP meeting till we are blue in the face. Guess it's time for us to call another meeting!
Aly's first take on the situation was that D and S were fighting, Aly got in the middle of it, J came up behind her and shoved her into D which made her fall onto D and D punched Aly in the arm so Aly bit D on her arm.
After she calmed down a bit, she disclosed that D was being mean to S so Aly got involved to try stop them fighting but D got mad and "said an ugly word to Aly" so Aly got mad and bit her. Aly won't tell me what D said, but she has called Aly the "N" word on several occasions, so I wouldn't be surprised if that was it.
This shocks me! Not that she would get into the middle of someone else's battles/issues, that's classic Aly, but she has not been violent other than one shoving incident last year.
Aly said she is the only one who got a referral, and with the one she had earlier in the year, if she gets one more, she will have in school suspension! I will be calling the VP tomorrow morning first thing, he had already left for the day by the time she got home off the bus.
Aly just had a psychiatrist appointment last week and we got to boast how well she is doing and psychiatrist was talking about titrating her off of the Trileptal over the summer. :smile:
I tried not to make a huge deal of this with Aly yet, as the referral only tells the infractions, not the story behind what triggered the behaviors. I did talk to her about bringing her "higher power" into her heart when she is feeling angry or frustrated and to really try hard to walk away from others issues. She is sad and mad at herself, crying.
I feel so bad for her. I don't want her to be known as the school bully. Why can't our kids just have a fun childhood? Why is every "typical kid fight" turned into a huge thing because OUR kids have issues so everything MUST be examined/talked about/behavior modification/ blah blah blah!
Anyways, thanks for listening!
:sad:
Vickie