Sometimes I hate it when they DO listen

[TeDo]

I posted about my nephew and our messed up family dynamics with my mom and sisters. Well, I told difficult child 1 and difficult child 2 about nephew not being with us for Christmas this year (he's spending it with his mom). They wanted to know why so I explained the situation to them and that grandma & aunt are withholding gifts. They made various comments and the only comment I made is "that's not what Christmas is about" in reference to withholding gifts.

Tonight, difficult child 1 was arguing with me at bedtime (after a couple of "difficult" but not unbearable days) so I half-heartedly said "You know I don't HAVE to give you your gifts tomorrow night". His response was "Now you sound like grandma and what did you say about her? Hmmmm?" I couldn't think of a thing to say.

It was a touche' moment but I wasn't about to admit that to him.

 

[InsaneCdn]

It was a touche' moment but I wasn't about to admit that to him.

You have to know your own kid, and respond accordingly.
But... with my difficult child? We started making more progress when I took these as learning opportunities, and DID admit to being wrong.

 

[TeDo]

I do most of the time but considering I was trying to get him back into his bed it would have just opened another can of worms that would have been counterproductive at that particular moment. Believe me, I usually do because I want him to learn that it is okay to be wrong (which he NEVER admits when he is).

 

[InsaneCdn]

Oh, one of those "plan c for yourself" moments... been there done that too!

 

[buddy]

HA! Gottcha! Yes, we do need to give them more credit sometimes, lol. Sounds like he wasn't really too upset, probably being just as sarcastic as you were???? They know you too well.