I wonder how many threads are started with that title? We kicked our son out a few weeks ago and he was arrested Saturday night. I'm not sure what any of it is about I think it's a misdemeanor charge and he wasn't held on bail. He makes absolutely no sense and came over talking about how the cops took his wallet, etc. But we cannot get involved so he finally gave up and left after he only got blank stares and nods. I read catmom's and child of mine's description of God having our children and us having to back away. That is what I have been trying to do. I didn't want to hack that thread (again) so I decided to write a new one. I haven't gone to any of his court dates since he turned 18 (and he was still in juvie at the time - I got so many calls from juvie asking where I was, etc but at the end of the day they couldn't compel me to go with an adult - system is messed up). My dad just called me and wants me to go to court and compel them to put him in court ordered rehab. It's kind of upset my resolve. I won't do anything different but I still feel the pressure again. I told him son won't be bringing his mom to court with him and he got off phone real quick. Dad probably caught me at a bad time, I've been up with sick daughter all night and had to leave her to go to work (she's 17 and seemed better), of which he gave no cares about. So frustrating to have these setbacks in motivation and resolve!