hi
I started off when she was smaller my easy child, we began with reproduction of animals, etc. how fascinating it is. My initial spin was the love of two ppl, or animals, a bird, dog, cat etc. can create another human being. Sort of like the birds and the bees speech........ than as time went on and i knew she was learning alot more in school that was incorrect i began to up the anti and concentrated more on the biology of it all, the science. I did wow isnt' it fascinating how an egg can be fertilized in a mommy's tummy and a baby can grow in a special place. I've learned a little info at a time with my kids, and than adding on as their mind's and scope of realities grows and expands seems to work for them.
I guess what I"m saying is i started off small and with each new passing year I began to add more reality into it. It was gradual. difficult child unfortunately got hit iwth it all at once at only almost 10 because she heard some kids saying stuff very explicit ugh and i had to go full sexual talk on her. I had no choice because the way it was explained was so violent and hurtful to her young ears. I still spun it with the whole love thing. I keep pushing love, love, adulthood, etc.
Obviously my easy child made a bad choice recently. I am confident she will come back from it or at least hopeful. Yet one thing I can say is she was incredibly hesitant that night as I carefully read thru her texts. She also didn't engage in intercourse. I guess I can be grateful for that.
I think it's so so important for us as parents to be as open and honest about sexuality with them as possible as well as menstrual cycles, etc. I've already done the menstrual cycle talk with difficult child as well. I had to she now wears deodorant, she has two pimples. What can I say is it the hormones in the milk that are making them develop faster??
Another great book is by Judy Blume"God it's me Margaret" love that book.
ok i've rambled sorry xmas wrapping and writing. i just wanted to jump in. Enjoy those moments also though, their special those talks. Someday we'll remember them when our kids are adults and all grown up hopefully lol.