zachieandameliasmom
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AIYA! When will this end??
Tuesday I get an email from difficult child's homeroom teacher(he's in 5th grade) saying how proud she is of him. He's been great since coming back from Christmas break. ETC...
No lie, next day get a call from the school to come pick up difficult child. UGHH The counselor is the one who called. She said he was being disruptive in class, so the teacher said to go to the resource room. He refused. Told her no. Said he didn't want to go there with-all the dumb kids. UGHH Details get a bit sketchy here. Guess he got up to go there. Gets in the resource room and refused to sit down. Was pacing back and forth the room. Resource teacher then told him to go to the office. Well, he didn't. He returned to classroom. Then somehow he finally made it to the office. VP talks to him and he wouldn't really talk to her. Was being rude/disrespectful. She gave him some work to do and he proceeded to tear it in half and throw it. Principal wasn't in office at time so VP sends him to counselor. He usually will talk to her. Counsellor said he wouldn't talk and wouldn't even get up to come in her office. She said she was going to call his Dad. He said go ahead I don't care. UGHH Couldn't get Dad on phone, so she calls me at work. Told me to come pick him up. He was smarting off in the background. Not sure what he said. I told her to put him on phone. I told him to stop being disrespectful to adults NOW. Tried to find out what was going on. ETC...got the standard answer of I don't know. So, I rush to get work done and go out there. It takes 30 min to get there from my work. Get in there and talk to counsellor. She said he calmed down after talking to me and they had a nice talk. ?? Whatever. She said she mentioned how smart he was and didn't need to be acting the way he was. She asked why he wasn't in the PACE program(gifted) and he started to cry. He said he wanted to be in it but they wouldn't let him. He was tested in 2nd grade and they claimed he didn't qualify. I know it's because he has behavior issues and they didn't want to deal with-it. Which maybe, just maybe if the child was challenged at school he wouldn't get bored and act out. But hey what do I know! So, we go home. Took away all priveleges. Told him he'd have to earn them back. He was remourseful and behaved fine at home that night.
So, yesterday he goes off to school with-no problems. Seemed fine. Said he would have a good day. Well, around 11 am I get another call saying principal says come get him. I was off yesterday and at Target at the time. I check out go to school. Walk in and sp ed teacher was in office with-principal. The principal said he was doing same thing today. he said in his 33 yrs experience he's never had a child like difficult child. He said he's tried every approach and nothing works. He said he worries more about difficult child then any other child. He said he feels like he's failed with-him. He wanted to know about his therapy appointment. Well, it was yesterday and we hadn't gotten there yet. So, he wants therapist to call him and talk to him. He wanted to suspend difficult child for 4 days, but after our talk he reduced it to just today. UGHH The sp ed teacher informed me that the day school they wanted to get him into is full and long waiting list. So no way will he get in this year. She said no alternative schools for elem age kids. She said only other thing would be for him to go 1/2 days or every other day. I said HUH? What good would that do? It would only punish me by having to miss work and possibly lose my job. It wouldn't help difficult child. Principal agreed. She said we'll have a new IEP meeting ASAP. Well, what are we supposed to put in place? I mean they call at the drop of the hat for me to come get him.
I don't know what to do. The school doesn't know what to do. I can't just quit my job and home school him. Although it kinda looks like that might be forced upon me.
What are my options???
Went to his first therapy appointment yesterday right after the school. The guy is really nice and he and difficult child seemed to click. So, maybe he'll be of some help. Only thing is he is booked. Couldn't get another appointment until Feb 4th. And it was only a half session. Then next full session was Feb 17th. So, how is that going to help now?? You know? He sold me a book and work book. It has contracts in there etc...
Oh and next Thur husband and I are going on a cruise. Now I'm going to be worried sick about what is difficult child doing. My parents are coming over to keep the kids. We will be gone Thur, Fri, Sat, Sun and return Mon am......
Any thoughts, ideas?? I'd appreciate anything at this point.
Tuesday I get an email from difficult child's homeroom teacher(he's in 5th grade) saying how proud she is of him. He's been great since coming back from Christmas break. ETC...
No lie, next day get a call from the school to come pick up difficult child. UGHH The counselor is the one who called. She said he was being disruptive in class, so the teacher said to go to the resource room. He refused. Told her no. Said he didn't want to go there with-all the dumb kids. UGHH Details get a bit sketchy here. Guess he got up to go there. Gets in the resource room and refused to sit down. Was pacing back and forth the room. Resource teacher then told him to go to the office. Well, he didn't. He returned to classroom. Then somehow he finally made it to the office. VP talks to him and he wouldn't really talk to her. Was being rude/disrespectful. She gave him some work to do and he proceeded to tear it in half and throw it. Principal wasn't in office at time so VP sends him to counselor. He usually will talk to her. Counsellor said he wouldn't talk and wouldn't even get up to come in her office. She said she was going to call his Dad. He said go ahead I don't care. UGHH Couldn't get Dad on phone, so she calls me at work. Told me to come pick him up. He was smarting off in the background. Not sure what he said. I told her to put him on phone. I told him to stop being disrespectful to adults NOW. Tried to find out what was going on. ETC...got the standard answer of I don't know. So, I rush to get work done and go out there. It takes 30 min to get there from my work. Get in there and talk to counsellor. She said he calmed down after talking to me and they had a nice talk. ?? Whatever. She said she mentioned how smart he was and didn't need to be acting the way he was. She asked why he wasn't in the PACE program(gifted) and he started to cry. He said he wanted to be in it but they wouldn't let him. He was tested in 2nd grade and they claimed he didn't qualify. I know it's because he has behavior issues and they didn't want to deal with-it. Which maybe, just maybe if the child was challenged at school he wouldn't get bored and act out. But hey what do I know! So, we go home. Took away all priveleges. Told him he'd have to earn them back. He was remourseful and behaved fine at home that night.
So, yesterday he goes off to school with-no problems. Seemed fine. Said he would have a good day. Well, around 11 am I get another call saying principal says come get him. I was off yesterday and at Target at the time. I check out go to school. Walk in and sp ed teacher was in office with-principal. The principal said he was doing same thing today. he said in his 33 yrs experience he's never had a child like difficult child. He said he's tried every approach and nothing works. He said he worries more about difficult child then any other child. He said he feels like he's failed with-him. He wanted to know about his therapy appointment. Well, it was yesterday and we hadn't gotten there yet. So, he wants therapist to call him and talk to him. He wanted to suspend difficult child for 4 days, but after our talk he reduced it to just today. UGHH The sp ed teacher informed me that the day school they wanted to get him into is full and long waiting list. So no way will he get in this year. She said no alternative schools for elem age kids. She said only other thing would be for him to go 1/2 days or every other day. I said HUH? What good would that do? It would only punish me by having to miss work and possibly lose my job. It wouldn't help difficult child. Principal agreed. She said we'll have a new IEP meeting ASAP. Well, what are we supposed to put in place? I mean they call at the drop of the hat for me to come get him.
I don't know what to do. The school doesn't know what to do. I can't just quit my job and home school him. Although it kinda looks like that might be forced upon me.
What are my options???
Went to his first therapy appointment yesterday right after the school. The guy is really nice and he and difficult child seemed to click. So, maybe he'll be of some help. Only thing is he is booked. Couldn't get another appointment until Feb 4th. And it was only a half session. Then next full session was Feb 17th. So, how is that going to help now?? You know? He sold me a book and work book. It has contracts in there etc...
Oh and next Thur husband and I are going on a cruise. Now I'm going to be worried sick about what is difficult child doing. My parents are coming over to keep the kids. We will be gone Thur, Fri, Sat, Sun and return Mon am......
Any thoughts, ideas?? I'd appreciate anything at this point.