Friday night we went to my difficult child's school spring carnival, he had a great time and asked if we could stay and watch the fireworks that started after 8:30. He had a full week of great behavior so I said yes BUT he had to stay in bed and try his hardest to sleep in (he usually wakes by 6:30 AM every day). He agreed. Unfortunatly that night he had horibble dreams about spirits, gostly possesions, and horrible things (thanks to the shows his dad watches when he is at his house). My difficult child crawled into bed with me but continued to have nightmares. Needless to say the lack of sleep lead towards a very rough weekend. We (my PM, difficult child and I) spent the weekend at my mom's, I love my mom dearly! She is honestly one of my best friends, she is a social worker and she has done a lot of research on how to comunicate with my difficult child, and what he needs. Why is it then that when we are at her place everything she has taught me goes out the window. She snaps at my difficult child, responds in anger by the end of the first day I was done in.. all I wanted to do was go home. As hard as it is to be a single mom with a difficult child, sometimes I would rather to it alone! That way I know that there is the consistency he needs. I know that the TV is a "bad" babysitter, but if that means I can sleep in for a little bit on the weekend I am ok with it. I feel my mom looks down on my decision to allow both my easy child and my difficult child to watch the amout of TV they do. She didn't allow my difficult child to watch ANY TV at all, he had 2 major meltdowns because he knows that we are trying to build consistency between all the homes he spends time with. I tried to explain that every home with have some different rules. He said his NORMAL respone "I wish I was adopted for this day to a new family", which I calmly repsond. "I love you so much, I would miss you terribly". I walk away and let it slide of my back. My mom then tries to say that HE shouldn't say that, He was very dissrespectfull......etc. I just put my hand up and said "Mom STOP". I love spending the weekend with my mom, but it is to much on me and both my boys to do so. I know she dosen't mean any harm, she is just a "harsh" person at times. I grew up with her, I know what she needs. But my kids are MY kids and they don't get her. I know this post is all over the place, needed to vent!