Most nights I text my Developmental Coordination Disorder (DCD) before bed. We sometimes exchange brief messages, other times it is lengthy conversations. Sometimes she pours out her heart to me, others she blames me for everything that is wrong. Most often she is not sober. It takes a toll on me and comforts me at the same time. I like to know she is alive. I feel like it is a borderline co-dependent behavior (for me, and maybe for her). When she was young and she'd run off to the big city and stay with bad people for weeks at a time, a phone call or text was so precious. She's alive! She's not dead in a ditch or chained to a wall in some psycho's apartment! Thank goodness, I can go to sleep now. It's turned into habit for me, maybe. Because it oftentimes upsets me, my husband and I wonder it our late night messages are a good thing or a habit that needs breaking. I feel like I owe it to her in some ways (don't judge). Like she can't stay here, she can't take her kid at will, her siblings relationship with her is strained... she has very little right now. So the least I can do is "tuck her in at night" so to speak. But then I don't do that for my regular functioning children, so something seems amiss about it. Does anyone else have a similar "ritual" or check-in with their CD child? I think I might need to find a method that doesn't cause me as much distress.