It is just as likely that she may turn to somebody in jail, like a psychologist or psychiatrist, for support; she may accept medication or work with professionals to find a better medication. She might decide to do something for herself, like go to a 12-step group, if they're available. I worked in prison mental health for over 30 years. You'd be surprised how well some people do in a controlled environment.
She may have called to pressure you to put money on her books. And not because of any emotional need at all. Or maybe she is lucid and feeling better.
I think I hang onto pessimism because hope hurts too much. But it's not always the worst thing.
I do hope with everything I have that she has accepted some form of help. About 2 weeks after she was in I spoke with a nami counselor pleading with them to help her. She said that my daughter had not filled out the paperwork to receive this help at that time, they could not make her do so.
Today is her mental competency evaluation court date, find out how they will proceed - trial or mental hospital? It’s the first time in all her jail stays that this has come up, her mental must be off the charts. She told me last time she was in jail all she did was scream, she could not take being in which at that time she accepted medication. She then said the medication made her have feelings she did not want to deal, she tried to kill herself by slashing her wrists. My husband and I found this out as on the day we had a planned visit, we were denied as she was in medical. We asked why and at first they would not tell us. When I persisted they finally did and I just broke down. The woman was so nice trying to console me…she’s alright, we are taking care of her, don’t worry. I sobbed like a baby.
I don’t know the true reason for her calling but, thank you Copa for trying to give me better thoughts as to why she did.
It’s horrible for them without money on their books, they have access to nothing. But, as my husband and I keep telling ourselves over and over and over, this was her choice, she willing left our home after her Dad told her she did not have too. About a month later we did receive texts from her asking if we had turned her room into my husbands office? We said yes we did. She asked how did we like it? We said we loved it! Asked her how it was living out of her car and she said it was so hot, she was waiting on her check to drop so she could buy gas and turn on the ac. She said it was another one of her stupid decisions.
It’s been a little over a year being strong, so much wanting her to come back home and worrying about her. We know that when she left us she had 2 great jobs, Walmart and Hardee’s to which by the time of her incarceration her Facebook said she was an exotic dancer with a picture of her hold lots of dollar bills fanned out.
Her TikTok shows her hanging out with strangers and partying. This is the type of life she wants, not the adult one that will keep her safe.
Certainly am a lot better now than when I first started. Always a work in progress. 