It's too easy to look at someone's life from the outside to pass judgement. I think maybe someone is trying to make themselves feel better about the choices they made.Hugs
That was the first thing I thought as well. And also that this is a personal decision between family only and based solely on family's needs.
We all make choices that suit our needs and desires as a family/couple/single person.
We will always come up against someone who will pass judgement on our personal choices and we have to learn to let it go, hard as that may be. Or, punch her in the nose and then walk away.
My sister is very well off and has been able to entertain many 'hobbies' or so called 'life interests' over the past 20 years. Before her H made a lot of money, she cleaned houses while living in a tenament. My sister must feel guilt or something because she does not have to work outside the home and is able to pursue many interests and spend A LOT of her family's money. She never misses an opportunity to remind everyone within earshot that she used to clean houses, blah blah blah - and other inane things. It's like she's trying too hard to let everyone know that she 'earned' the right to stay home. In reality, there are many people who make not even a 1/4 of what her H makes and they choose to stay home because it suits them. Nothing wrong with that.
My point is, it is what it is. That woman made her choices along the way and you have made yours - there is no right or wrong. I don't defend my working outside the house; I feel fortunate that I was able to stay home with my daughters until they were 4 and 2 FT and then PT for another 2 years. Staying at home with them came at a very high price, but eventually, when I felt they were capable of going to daycare, I went to work FT. In my case I was the sole supporter until H entered the picture a couple of years later. I think in the next 10 years we will be approaching a time when I may not have to work, but to be honest, I enjoy it. Despite the common complaints of going to work and everything, I do enjoy the independence I feel and I also feel satisfaction of being able to do my job. Soon it will be a choice that I make to continue working.
ANYWAY, I am probably repeating what everyone has already said. Walk away from ignorant people like that. We all make choices that suit our needs.