BusynMember
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So Jumper is almost eighteen and never home. She is either practicing her sports or at school or hanging out with her girlfriends or more often her very nice boyfriend. It's like she only sleeps here. And Sonic? He has always been pretty quiet, being on the autism spectrum, but he does come downstairs to tell me things in excited bursts of being social. I am very close to both kids. And both will be out of the house by August. For Sonic, it could be sooner, depending on when an apartment in the complex he likes becomes available. Even though I don't have massive interaction with either of them, it is comforting for me to know they will be sleeping under our roof. I am wondering how others have felt about or dealt with the empty nest when it happens. I was hoping to get down to Chicago to visit my daughter and new granddaughter more often, but I just got a job, which I really need, and while I will visit, I can't go for long periods of time since I will have to be mindful of my job. Julie is going to be a stay-at-home mom so that was an option for me, but now it's not. My hubby still works full time...he's only 58 (I'm a cougar by two years).
I do have my dogs
Because of getting this job which I'd rather not have but need, I also have to quit a lot of my volunteering. The only activity I will still be able to stay involved in is community theatre because I get Thursdays off (but have to work every other weekend). I work five hours a day, four days a week. I do not know if I will be up to still volunteering but changing my hours after being on my feet all that time. It's not a sit down job. Plus I'm the type of person who needs alone time after I've been with people for long stretches of time, like five hours in a store.
How do you feel when the last one leaves if it is not your difficult child? Just trying to see how it goes for others. I imagine I will adjust as I'm used to adjusting, but it's going to be weird. I thought of doing foster care respite as a job...but not so sure I'm interested in day-to-day parenting anymore, even for short bursts of time.
I do have my dogs
Because of getting this job which I'd rather not have but need, I also have to quit a lot of my volunteering. The only activity I will still be able to stay involved in is community theatre because I get Thursdays off (but have to work every other weekend). I work five hours a day, four days a week. I do not know if I will be up to still volunteering but changing my hours after being on my feet all that time. It's not a sit down job. Plus I'm the type of person who needs alone time after I've been with people for long stretches of time, like five hours in a store.
How do you feel when the last one leaves if it is not your difficult child? Just trying to see how it goes for others. I imagine I will adjust as I'm used to adjusting, but it's going to be weird. I thought of doing foster care respite as a job...but not so sure I'm interested in day-to-day parenting anymore, even for short bursts of time.