Hello, First I want to thank all of the people that have posted answers and suggestions, without your experiences I do not know what I would have done to prepare and educate myself and my family. Thank you. My son M started having problems at about 14 when he ran away because he was "mad" at his father and I. He was brought home and behavior was discussed and it was at that time we kept a closer eye on his school associations and friends. A few months later he was brought home by the police for causing a disturbance at a local restaurant at 2:30 am. He told us he was staying at a friends house for the night. Since then he has been failing all of his classes, being unruly toward his teachers and his parents, skipping class and lying constantly. We took him to the doctor to get help and we just found that he has been smoking and snorting pills including his medication. He turned 16 a few weeks ago, and at finding out he could not get a job across town and get emancipated he levied charges against his father and I for abuse and neglect and also his brother who lives with us. He states he is suicidal, has a history of cutting and substance abuse, and does not want to come home. He is currently in inpatient treatment acting as if nothing is wrong and telling the therapist all sorts of things. The charges against all of us were false and the criminal case has been closed. We have tried everything we can think of therapy, medication and now inpatient. We have no family that will take him in and all he wants to do is go live with his school friends who are dropping out and getting emancipated themselves. He returns home on Tuesday and I am terrified he will either commit suicide or runaway or levy more charges on us and his brother. His brother is moving out and when he was confronted with the information the therapist asked if that would make him feel safer at home, he said I don't know. We love him very much, are not abusive and don't even drink. I am at a serious loss as to what will actually help my child as this is seriously taking a toll on my mental and physical health as well as my employment. I do not want to give up on my child but it seems as if he will do anything to get what he wants, without any regard to what damages anyone or anything else. At what point in time do you start to consider your well being and that of the rest of the family? Sorry this is so long but I am desperate to find an answer that will help both of us. Thank you.