OK, difficult child has been seeing this new therapist. As well as me and husband. Yesterday after difficult child's session he asked me to call him this morning. I couldn't had appointments. I called later and I was asked to come in. We talked and He said some encouraging things and some scary things. He said he has worked with many many kids, and difficult child is one of the smartest he has seen. He is also ultra sensitive. Said our biggest challenge isn't homework. It is getting him to survive. He puts on an act at school, but is so very hurt, sad and depressed. Says things that sound scary, then says he doesn't mean it. Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD). Very much so. He said difficult child is definately big time ADHD and ODD as a bonus. ODD has settled down a lot. He said difficult child is an extraverted auditory learner. He learns by engaging in conversation. I know that. If you talk to him it is like talking to an adult. He said it is time we saw an edocronologist (Sp???) I asked if difficult child was ready for puberty if he isn't there naturally. He said difficult child was ready yesterday. His self image is very poor and being teased constantly is really hard on him. Teachers all tell me he talks non stop. Doesn't matter where he is or who he is by. Once the lecture portion is done and they do classwork, then he has to go to the office cause his head hurts. Then to the bathroom, then use his pass. Same with tests. Stares at it for 5 minutes then asks to take it home. Then goes to the office, bathroom and doesn't finish. therapist said addressing the anxiety could relieve a lot of symptoms. And addressing the ADHD would relieve a lot of symptoms. That we should discuss it with him and see what he would like to address first. I did and he said anxiety. He doesn't sleep well at all. therapist is also in contact with principal, via email and isn't charging. He said those things above need to be added to his IEP. Meeting with principal and new Special Education teacher didn't go well yesterday. New Special Education teacher wants difficult child to do things HIS way. And difficult child won't. Not when you approach him like that. Principal agreed. teacher said, "I am sorry, I cannot work with him then". Principal also said to be baby faced and small in high school is tough. He puts on a tough guy act, but then cries at home. Normal. Difficult. And he completely understands. He will keep an eye out and will not allow the teasing. He said that is bullying and he won't have it. Principal also understands that to reach difficult child, it is on approach. difficult child falls apart if he feels out of control. Or if someone tries to force him to do something. SO, he said he will speak to him. He will give him choices and ask him for a suggestion. Make it sound like difficult child has come up with a plan to get his work in. Once difficult child thinks it is HIS plan, then he will be more willing to comply. Principal told Special Education teacher to revise his IEP and make sure extra time for tests is on it. That was before the Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD) and ADHD was told to me. It has been a very long, long road. I am afraid for difficult child. therapist told me things to look for. His self image is so broken. He perceives things so twisted. Everything anyone says he takes as directed at him. I am scared. Also, one teacher offered an oral test. Any test under 70% he must retake. (school rule) On the retake she will do an oral test with him. That would be absolutely wonderful. therapist thinks so too. He said, "why didn't I think of that". At this point he is unstable and very fragile. Later we can phase that out. And about his trip. therapist said he was surprised difficult child ever even got on the plane. Tomorrow I call psychiatrist and endo. I am terrified of the statement, "our biggest challenge is to get him to survive". I am happy that he actually explained things. I am happy he and difficult child click so well. I never realized what ADHD can actually do. I have psychiatrist appointment tomorrow too. So much to say, so little time.