My son is leaving again tomorrow. We are out of ideas of how to help him. His father and I have tried everything. This was his third time coming back home and he’s blown it again. Long story short…after seeing that he was not trying to improve his life and not saving any money whatsoever (buying junk food, cigarettes, and drugs), we gave him an ultimatum. He was working pretty much full time at a fast food place and he likes to do yard work on the side. We figured out approximately how much income he made in a month and told him he had to show us $1000 at the end of the first month. If he couldn’t meet that, he had until the end of the second month to show us $2,000. He could either choose to save money or choose to live somewhere else as we were not enabling his behaviors anymore. You know, for the life of me I can’t remember what our rationale was for giving him 2 months to show us money. I guess we always want to give him the benefit of the doubt. Anyway, he’s moving in with a friend in another state for a short time and says he’s going to enter rehab. I don’t buy it. I’m just happy he’s leaving as I can’t take watching him destroy his life anymore. The one thing I am telling him in the morning is that for my own mental and physical health I don’t want any contact for 6 months. Maybe that sounds harsh, but I don’t care. I’m tired of my life being ruined by his actions. This person is not my son. I have no idea who it is, but I don’t like them one bit. So, I bought him a bus ticket, packed some snacks for the bus, will give him $20 for food and send him out into that big bad world. I'll know that his father and I have done everything we possibly could to help him. The rest is up to him. Thanks for letting me get this off my chest.