I've been watching the baby Aubrey while Nichole goes to class since I've finished with clinicals. I've noticed some behavior that has caused me, the veteran Mom of 3 difficult child kids, to sit up and take notice. I'm just not exactly sure what to think of it. First of all, Aubrey is NOT spoiled. Far from it. Just thought I'd clarify that one. lol I've noticed that when the baby (14 mos old) thinks you've done something She doesn't like she'll give you a look of either contempt or utter defiance. Then she'll haul off and slap you. Now, her mother was a difficult child from the very beginning. But even as bad as Nichole was as a todder..... (and she WAS) Aubrey has her licked. I never dreamed a 14 month old could look at someone with contempt OR defiance. Now I have had a toddler slap me. But usually out of frustration or they'll giggle while they do it. Aubrey seems to know exactly why she's hitting you and doing it on purpose. It's downright unsettling to watch her in action. Then today at lunchtime she and Nana had a battle of wills. (obviously Aubrey didn't know who she is dealing with lol) It was awful. I knew she was hungry. But she up and decided about half way thru that she didn't want to sit still and eat. Temper tantrum is an understatement. Mostly because I kept getting those looks and she'd reach in and take the bite of food out of her mouth. This was food she loves by the way. So Nana just kept right on shoveling it in. When she'd take her hands to pull it out, I'd "spank" her hands and put it right back. Took her forever to get the idea that her actions weren't going to get the result she wanted. Then she ate with no problem. No wonder Nichole gets so frustrated feeding her. We discussed this tonight. I told Nichole that she has to be more stubborn than the baby, and told her I'd show her how to get her to eat. Aubrey is too thin to skip meals. And now I see the "falling apart" behavior that we had with Nichole as a toddler. Where the baby can be playing just fine and all of a sudden her mood changes and she's cranky, whiney, and fussy for no reason. If you try to console her you're risking a meltdown. Happens just as often when she's already had her nap and isn't tired. Yet the baby also is very loving and tender. When she's happy she's very happy. She's almost too smart. by the way she finally hit one developmental milestone on time. She's walking now. Whew! But in all the God knows how many kids I've cared for over the years, I've never seen outright defiance in one so young before. Even Nichole didn't do that one. Hers were mostly meltdowns and refusing to do anything. We'll just have to keep redirecting and being more stubborn than she is I guess. But have any of you seen this in a 14 month old??