I had a reasonaable week away from difficult child and hubby. I think it just sped up the things I wanted to avoid. They traded hubby's wrecked '69 Charger for a less wrecked '73 Duster. Hubby's '77 Plymouth broke down. Those 3 cars, plus a slightly newer Celica and a very new (Cadillac?) rental car were all parked at my house when I arrived home! The Celica left. The next day, the charger was towed away! Yea!!!!!! Hubby worked on his car, but something is draining the power. The Duster has no tag, no insurance and a broken windshield. difficult child just called me, asking if I could come up with about $200 for the downpayment on his insurance, so he could get the car on the road. I don't want to enable him, but I would like to get him more independent in this way. This is what hubby and difficult child were keeping secrets about last week. I was under the impression that hubby was giving difficult child the money out of his "bonus". I'm not totally clear on what is going on. I am not in favor of letting him get the car on the road with the broken windshield, as the cracks are all on the driver's side. My gut says just when I've paid for him to insure, that is when he will get 'a heady sense of freedom' and then get caught and ticketed for the windshield. Don't want that on my consicience. Also, in the past, difficult child has conveniently 'forgotten' about moeny owed to me or us. You know, that little bit here and there that a guy will forget about- food, the fact that we are letting him stay in our house, and all the laundry and showers. My gut is screaming NO , but my heart is whispering 'yes'. Won't be able to bring it up with hubby until later tonight, but it would probably be out of my 'hoarded' money anyway.