GStorm
Becoming Independent
My first post notes how my son has manipulated, lied, cheated, stole,and kept things secret. He was. "suicidal" when his electricity bill was past due. I had him assessed and he was hospitalized. During that time is when I found out about spending $1000 on porn when he should have been paying his rent and looking for a job. I told him he was not going to stay with me because of all of this. While I telling him, he hung up on me. This was Monday night. Now the hospital is looking to discharge him. He has a plan to go to Louisville with his. Dad. Prior to that he needs an interim stay. So, he called up, apologizing, crying, not really giving any explanation, except, I thought I could still do that (the porn) ....while unemployed and rent not being paid. So he is asking to stay with me until Nov 7th. I told him last night, I would have to think and pray on this....that it may be a yes, but not sure.
So a friend prayed with me last night and I got a good rest. I said a prayer this a.m. and came to this site for guidance. As I am writing, I see the. "writing on the wall".
NO, I CANNOT PICK YOU UP. His friend and his Mom are not going to let him stay at their place. So, I think the best thing is for him to go to the shelter. We have some things to work out and I can get him next weekend, but not through this week. I do not want tp punish my son, yet he has shown no regard for mine. my friends, or my family's feelings, so I think to take him in this week would be sending the message that I do not care for myself, that all you have to do is cry some crocodile tears, and Mommy will swoop down and take care of everything. BUT, NOT THIS TIME. Even though it is just a few days, I think he needs a taste of what happens when one lies, cheats , steals, and keeps things hidden.
So, writing this out helps me make that decision. Any feedback &/or support would be highly appreciated. Gail
So a friend prayed with me last night and I got a good rest. I said a prayer this a.m. and came to this site for guidance. As I am writing, I see the. "writing on the wall".
NO, I CANNOT PICK YOU UP. His friend and his Mom are not going to let him stay at their place. So, I think the best thing is for him to go to the shelter. We have some things to work out and I can get him next weekend, but not through this week. I do not want tp punish my son, yet he has shown no regard for mine. my friends, or my family's feelings, so I think to take him in this week would be sending the message that I do not care for myself, that all you have to do is cry some crocodile tears, and Mommy will swoop down and take care of everything. BUT, NOT THIS TIME. Even though it is just a few days, I think he needs a taste of what happens when one lies, cheats , steals, and keeps things hidden.
So, writing this out helps me make that decision. Any feedback &/or support would be highly appreciated. Gail