What a two weeks weve had here! I dont even know where to start! First, I dont know if I mentioned it, but a stray cat came and had kittens in the backseat of my car! She hasnt been seen again, and Ive been hand feeding them and have managed to save 5 of the 7. That is pretty time consuming! Then, my best friends husband is dying. He has CHF and Chronic Obstructive Pulmonary Disease (COPD), and weve known it was coming, but its been heart wrenching and tiring. The middle difficult child got into it at daycare with a girl, and tricked her into touching his privates. She was new, and didnt yet know to stay away from him. Final straw. We were trying to find a nanny, someone to come and watch the two younger boys and be more active in their care, and so we stepped up the search a bit. We hired a girl, only to fire her the first day. She has guests over, and was on the phone all the time, etc. I couldnt believe it. The first stinkin day! What the hell is that about? So we got a second girl. Young girl with a baby of her own, and she lasted two days. Her kid got a cold, and its my fault because I smoke. Not that I am around the kid to even get second hand smoke, but just cause their might be residue in the house! OMH. At the same time the oldest difficult child has been being a jerk at summer school. He has some issues with math, and english, and there were classes availible to boost his knowledge during summer, as well as get him extra credits for school. I was shocked and appalled when his teacher called me! Despite having aspergers, he is usually a very very good kid. It seems hormones, puberty, jr high, and being nice cant all get along. He started out being the class clown. He is like that, and even the teacher said it wasnt ad enough to warrant anything other than just ignoring him. Then he started 'napping' in class, not real naps, but jsut pretending to sleep so that he didnt have to work. Then he went to openly defying her and just staring at her when she told him to do something and just blatantly not doing it. To top this off he was getting very agressive towards other kids there. Yelling and cussing and threatening them, for various stupid reasons. I jsut dont know what has gotten into the kid. I dont know what to do! As for the update to the 'update to help hes sr', not much progress. DCFS is still aware of the actions of the middle one, and all innapropriate touching has been reported to his pediatrician, his therapist, his psychiatrist, his case worker. And all any of them say is 'line of sight'. I know that, people, give me something useful! There seems to be nothing anyone can do to help him. I am just as confused now as i was before. I asked the psychiatric. about the neuropsychologist, and he stated he felt that the results wouldnt help us much in his treatment or diagnosis, but we will do it anyway. May as well, right? And still, we are supposed to jsut wait til he is ten and then try to get him to a hospital.... Anyone have any reccomendations? And anything to add to helping me get the boy an IEP for this stuff?