Unbelievable! Some Good News (for a Change!)

Discussion in 'General Parenting' started by DaisyFace, May 5, 2011.

  1. DaisyFace

    DaisyFace Love me...Love me not

    As you recall, County MH made a referral to a Behavior Specialist...

    Well, I was WRONG! It's not a Behavioral Specialist -

    The woman who came to my house this morning is with an MST Program.

    That's the GOOD news!

    The GREAT news?

    This woman is smart,
    she is a mother herself,
    she has worked as a therapist in an office setting
    she has done in-home therapy for years
    she "gets" it!


    She asked what I'd been told about her and her program? I told her "nothing". So she filled me in...

    I asked what she had been told about difficult child and our family. She went to her briefcase and pulled out a single sheet of paper with about three phrases scrawled across it: child has ADHD, ODD, and Intermittent Explosive Disorder.

    Well, that opened the floodgates right there...

    WHERE is all the documentation about ALL the diagnoses, and medications, and previous therapies and etc etc etc????

    I began pulling documents from my parent report.

    MST worker (I'm gonna call her Ms Ally) was happy to have the information and wanted to get copies of everything.

    PLUS - Ms Ally KNOWS all the people we have been working with.

    She KNOWS the idiot caseworker and was not the least bit surprised to hear the "will not harm family 6 out of 7 days" and then earn a reward stuff. Ms Ally explained that caseworker is just a pencil pusher trying to fill out the forms, but doesn't have a clue how to use common sense or apply things to real life situations.

    She KNOWS disastrous Dr W who believes one can cure kids by just asking them to promise to behave.

    and she KNOWS how the folks at the psychiatric hospital just try to push the kids through as fast as they can and then dump the problems back on the parents.

    She KNOWS! She gets it!

    And she is going to start working with out family...

    and the first thing she is going to put to her supervisor? Why have the psychological reports that indicate NonVerbal Learning Disorder (NVLD) and Central Auditory Processing Disorder (CAPD) been ignored? Does any of that testing need to be updated? Can we really just assume that difficult child has outgrown a learning disability and a hearing problem (even though that's been County MH's position for the past several years!)?


    Ms Ally rocks!
  2. AnnieO

    AnnieO Shooting from the Hip

    OMG - it is SO about time!!!!!

    That single sheet of paper said it all - and you got a chance to get a word in!

  3. ThreeShadows

    ThreeShadows Quid me anxia?

    Well, it's about bleeding time!!! You've been stuck in the Theater of the Absurd for so long I was starting to wonder if you were in a Kafka novel. Finally, someone with some common sense...
  4. susiestar

    susiestar Roll With It


    I knew the Board Mojo would work eventually and SOMEONE with some real SENSE and KNOWLEDGE would get involved. As she knows these people, including the idiot form filler outer lady, she knows how to get them to do what is needed!!!

    in my opinion there is NO WAY that your daughter has "outgrown" NonVerbal Learning Disorder (NVLD) or Central Auditory Processing Disorder (CAPD). The MH people who say this are just stupid and lazy. Sadly that seems to be contagious. GRRRRR.

    Anyway, I hope that this lady is able to do something helpful. Like help you find those ratty pajamas and make the sign so that you can make difficult child see it is better to come home and NOT have mommy go to school dressed like that, LOL!
  5. DaisyFace

    DaisyFace Love me...Love me not

    Thanks, Susie!

    And yes - I do hope she helps us find a way to get difficult child to stop "missing the bus"....I'm not sure that I want to wear those ratty pajamas. Maybe she will have a better solution!


    Theatre of the Absurd? O yes, It's definitely felt that way!


    Thanks! Whoo-hoo is right!!!
  6. AnnieO

    AnnieO Shooting from the Hip

    Oh, hon, those jammies don't need to be ratty.

    Just annoying.

    I have a pair of purple fleece jammy pants with Chilly Willy all over them. They embarrass Onyxx all over the place. "Please don't wear those in public again!" "Why not? They cover more than your CLOTHES do!"
  7. jennd23

    jennd23 New Member

    That is wonderful news!
  8. PatriotsGirl

    PatriotsGirl Guest

    Can we all have one of her?? LOL - fantastic news!!!!
  9. InsaneCdn

    InsaneCdn Well-Known Member

    <tongue firmly in cheek>...

    Maybe all this 6-days-out-of-7 stuff is actually a real-life ratio...
    Like... 6 times out of 7, we get stuck with paper-pushing chair-warmers, and ONE time out of seven, we get a real person...

    Congratulations on beating the odds!
  10. KTMom91

    KTMom91 Well-Known Member

  11. shellyd67

    shellyd67 Active Member

    DF that is excellent news !!!!!:likeit:
  12. Jena

    Jena New Member

    that's great!! we had MST services for easy child also at one point. yet yours sounds awesome! mine was a young girl, fish outta water no clue would hang with easy child and listen to easy child bad mouth me! yea ok that worked lol.

    good luck hope it helps! sounds promising
  13. exhausted

    exhausted Active Member

    The graceful hooping jumping finially worked! May there be peace.
  14. Star*

    Star* call 911........call 911

    EXHALE - And all along hasn't it been YOU that's said the COUNTY has served you much better than the state?

    Honestly! The stuff this state makes you go through to get the things you need for your children so that HOW MANY people can have a job? RIDICULOUS - and they WONDER why parents like ME get labled radical? YEAH - I wonder.

    Congratulations Daisy - your perserverence is commendable! WARRIOR MOM STRIPE and COMMENDATION Star to you!
  15. flutterby

    flutterby Fly away!


    'Bout time!
  16. Marguerite

    Marguerite Active Member

    About time someone caught a break.

    Kafka novel - I like that. I might use it myself. I absolutely loathed having to study "The Trial" at uni. I quit the course rather than write the necessary essay. Now I think I understand just why I hated the novel so much. I did get it - just hated it.

  17. ML

    ML Guest

    Yeah!! Ms. Ally sounds amazing. Good luck.
  18. DaisyFace

    DaisyFace Love me...Love me not

    Oooooh yay - bling!!!

    Seriously, this process between the county and the state has been maddening....and it's only because of the conflict between the two that anything is happening at all. I think (even though County MH finally assigned us a therapist with a brain) County MH would have been very content to let us keep coming to bi-weekly appointments FOREVER even though no progress was being made at all....and did not bother making sure patients could get in to see psychiatrists any more frequently than 3 times a year.

    After the State chewed the County for lack of services in one of our meetings? Suddenly County has a new psychiatrist! (Coincidence? I think not...) And we've been going to County for 3 years...but SUDDENLY they had this MST service to refer us to... Where has that been all this time?

    So yes, the county is currenly serving us better - but only because we got the state breathing down their necks.
  19. tiredmommy

    tiredmommy Site Moderator

  20. idohope

    idohope Member

    Woo Hoo. Excellent news!