Hi, I am new here, just found it. I'm not sure how to deal with my son and the school. He is apparently off task a lot and doesn't do what he is asked at school straight away and the teachers are seeing this as disrespectful behaviour. They say he mutters under his breath making rude comments. He has had a few detentions but now they want to escalate the discipline because they are fed up with him. Apparrently the rule is progressive discipline. My son is very upset about this as it means that he gets punished more than someone else doing the same as him, but who hasn't been in trouble for the same reason as many times. My son is so upset about this that he wouldn't go to his recent work detention where they clean up after school, and wants to go with me to the teacher to talk about it. I have a meeting next week. The being off task and talking when he shouldn't and not taking notice of teachers first time has been part of his school life since kindergarten. He is quite like it at home, and I have to say, he finds it very difficult to say sorry for anything. I don't want to think it is all his fault, I want to try to make something positive happen with the teacher, but I think that the type of structured control that the teachers need in the classroom, is something that my son is always going to find very hard. He is 13 and in 7th grade. There is a lot more to tell, but this is just an openter really. Any insights or ways of dealing with it would be appreciated. My son wants me to help him, which is why he wants me at the meeting with his teacher, I'm not sure how to, I know he wants me to tell the teacher that she is wrong....but what if I'm just not sure.