Upallnight....how are you

Discussion in 'The Watercooler' started by bby31288, Sep 27, 2012.

  1. bby31288

    bby31288 Active Member

    UAN, you have been on my mind a lot. I can only hope you and your family are hanging in there. I have lost a brother. Not to suicide. But he has been missing presumed dead almost 3 years. My heart goes out to you and yours. Please try to check in.

  2. TeDo

    TeDo Guest

    Ditto the sentiment. I realize this is a busy and stressful time and that you were struggling before this happened. I am also one that is really worrying about you. Please check in and let us know you're surviving. Take care of yourself and

    MILLIONS of supportive {{{{(((HUGS)))}}}} to you!!!!
  3. AnnieO

    AnnieO Shooting from the Hip

    UAN - I was thinking about you too... Check in when you can.
  4. FlowerGarden

    FlowerGarden Active Member

    Same here. Hugs to you.
  5. ThreeShadows

    ThreeShadows Quid me anxia?

    Ditto what everyone else has said. Please stay in touch.
  6. witzend

    witzend Well-Known Member

    Me too.
  7. DDD

    DDD Well-Known Member

    Ditto, too. Hugs DDD
  8. SearchingForRainbows

    SearchingForRainbows Active Member


    I'm worried about you too. When you can, please let us know how you're doing.
    Wrapping my arms around you from cyberspace... Hugs, much love... SFR
  9. tiredmommy

    tiredmommy Site Moderator

    Continuing to send healing thoughts. Please update when you can.
  10. Hound dog

    Hound dog Nana's are Beautiful

    UAN you are in my thoughts and prayers. I hope you're up to updating us soon.

  11. hearts and roses

    hearts and roses Mind Reader

    UAN, continued thoughts and prayers to you and yours...please check in when you have a moment to let us know how you are. Hugs~
  12. KTMom91

    KTMom91 Well-Known Member

    You've been on my mind as well...hugs and prayers going out.
  13. busywend

    busywend Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Me, too. Sending support your way!
  14. 1905

    1905 Well-Known Member

    Thank you for all the kindness and concerns. We just got home yesterday. I spoke to my brother's friends and he really did have a good life. He was in a lot of pain due to an injury he got in the Marines. I take great comfort in hearing his friends speak about his life. He loved the military, if not for being medically discharged he would have been in forever. He had a great life. I've only cried twice today. We went through pictures and the miltary funeral they gave him was so beautiful. I'm happy he's resting with his fellow Marines. My parents are having all donations sent to disabled Marines. He was in so much pain. The pain was physical, he had to be in an induced coma once because of the pain. He couldn't take it anymore I guess. Nobody knows.
  15. bby31288

    bby31288 Active Member

    Sometimes the physical pain is more than one person can handle. I'm glad your brother had a beautiful funeral. Hugs to all of your family.
  16. TeDo

    TeDo Guest

    Thanks for checking in. It sounds like you probably have a BIG piece of the "why" and that it brings you some comfort to know there WAS a reason that makes some sense. Not that I agree with his solution but it makes sense. I hope he is whole and happy now. I hope you are able to come to grips with the loss and find some understanding (if you haven't already). I'm glad he got the recognition and honor he deserved.
  17. DammitJanet

    DammitJanet Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Glad you are back. Also glad you sort of understand a bit of the why. Pain can be a huge motivator. I hope you understood what I meant about him meeting his fellow Marines because it is something that really comforted me when my dad passed away. If it brings you even a tiny bit of comfort, I am sure my dad was there to welcome him in his Dress Blues. I firmly believe somehow those Dress Blues somehow magically are handed out when they appear at the Pearly Gates.
  18. 1905

    1905 Well-Known Member

    Janet, I understood and felt one drop better right away when you said he was with his fellow Marines. I was saying that to my relatives as well. Thank you for saying your dad was there to greet him. I think my grandmother may have been there also.

    My mom gave me a piece of costume jewelry that belonged to my grandmother to wear to the funeral. I wanted her "there" with us. After the funeral, the family went to a restaurant. While I was eating my salad, I bit into something , it turned out to be a plastic stone from the bracelet, it must have fallen out. So, we all feel that my grandmother was sending us a message that he was with her. This bracelet was from the 1930's. Nothing was missing from it, and that exact instant was the time something fell off of it.
  19. DDD

    DDD Well-Known Member

    I'm so glad to read your update. It sounds as though you and your family were able to accept his passing in the healthiest way possible. With time, I'm sure, the pain will ebb. Hugs. DDD