toughlovin
Well-Known Member
Hi all,
Well my son has moved out of state to avoid a warrant for his arrest. He seems to be doing pretty well actually and I have been feeling at peace about it. He moved with his girlfriend ( a new one who seems reasonable) and they are living with a friend way far away from us. He has been in touch. He has some money from an inheritance which I have control over but have been giving him a bit at a time for expenses... it is his money and I dont want to give it to him all at once but I am stepping back and not controlling it either.
So I have been feeling ok about all of it even though this whole thing is a crazy venture on his part. I have been hopeful because I thought he was sober and really wanting maybe to make a change for himself.
And then he accidentally texted me some texts he intended for someone else!! And they were drug related. Darn!!!! He quickly apologized and I told him it did not make me feel confident.... at which point he did say they are drinking and smoking but not a lot and its ok. Well I dont feel ok about it of course...... but I have realized it is his life and his journey and there is nothing I can do about it.
I am trying not to think about it too much or let it get in the way of enjoying my life. He has to figure this out himself. He has to find out that moderate doesnt work for him..... but dang it I was hoping he had figured that out already but obviously not. So it is probably a matter of time before the other shoe drops again! I have lost a lot of shoes!!
TL
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Well my son has moved out of state to avoid a warrant for his arrest. He seems to be doing pretty well actually and I have been feeling at peace about it. He moved with his girlfriend ( a new one who seems reasonable) and they are living with a friend way far away from us. He has been in touch. He has some money from an inheritance which I have control over but have been giving him a bit at a time for expenses... it is his money and I dont want to give it to him all at once but I am stepping back and not controlling it either.
So I have been feeling ok about all of it even though this whole thing is a crazy venture on his part. I have been hopeful because I thought he was sober and really wanting maybe to make a change for himself.
And then he accidentally texted me some texts he intended for someone else!! And they were drug related. Darn!!!! He quickly apologized and I told him it did not make me feel confident.... at which point he did say they are drinking and smoking but not a lot and its ok. Well I dont feel ok about it of course...... but I have realized it is his life and his journey and there is nothing I can do about it.
I am trying not to think about it too much or let it get in the way of enjoying my life. He has to figure this out himself. He has to find out that moderate doesnt work for him..... but dang it I was hoping he had figured that out already but obviously not. So it is probably a matter of time before the other shoe drops again! I have lost a lot of shoes!!
TL
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