Now my youngest son is did not call for 4 months now and he probably will not call until he can come home. Its not the first time this happened he did the same in college. Do not get me wrong he does answer on facebook when asked if he is ok and he answers with yes.
But that is not the issue the issue is that he does not talk to us unless he needs something and now he rarely needs something but never for emotional or just for normal chat.I think this I did it with my own hands.
My youngest likes(or liked in case of me) to discuss things many things with you but he is so tiresome and so curious that I just can not deal with so me and my wife started to ignore him because he was very tiresome and because he will then try to find friends to talk with not us but I will not lie the main reason was because he was very tiresome.
Now it did not went to well either since and I hate to admit it he became a outcast at school his teachers called my wife to tell her he is always alone and quiet. I admit I did nothing and neither my wife we were actually mad of the teachers that they called us for what we believed was too good( I can not translate from my native language what we actually believed because you can not translate it) and wasted our time.
So his school years went by with him being ignored by us and most of the other people who came in contact with besides his older brother actually I think the main reason my youngest has decent social skills are because of him.
While we could ignore our youngest the oldest knew how to keep people attention if not by being nice by being mean but he knew how. My wife says that if you trow my oldest out the door he comes trough the window if the window is closed he breaks it.
Now when our youngest grew up and wasted 2 years of college he did not call us unless he needed something and that was once in a blue moon. He did on the other hand talked a lot to his brother from where we found out more about his activities there. But as said by my oldest son his youngest only friend is him.
Now that another day has passed him not calling us and only a I am fine on facebook it makes me wonder did I chose the worse solution to deal with how tiresome he was? How did you all dealt with you child's curiosity and well that something that makes at least some parents tired?
But that is not the issue the issue is that he does not talk to us unless he needs something and now he rarely needs something but never for emotional or just for normal chat.I think this I did it with my own hands.
My youngest likes(or liked in case of me) to discuss things many things with you but he is so tiresome and so curious that I just can not deal with so me and my wife started to ignore him because he was very tiresome and because he will then try to find friends to talk with not us but I will not lie the main reason was because he was very tiresome.
Now it did not went to well either since and I hate to admit it he became a outcast at school his teachers called my wife to tell her he is always alone and quiet. I admit I did nothing and neither my wife we were actually mad of the teachers that they called us for what we believed was too good( I can not translate from my native language what we actually believed because you can not translate it) and wasted our time.
So his school years went by with him being ignored by us and most of the other people who came in contact with besides his older brother actually I think the main reason my youngest has decent social skills are because of him.
While we could ignore our youngest the oldest knew how to keep people attention if not by being nice by being mean but he knew how. My wife says that if you trow my oldest out the door he comes trough the window if the window is closed he breaks it.
Now when our youngest grew up and wasted 2 years of college he did not call us unless he needed something and that was once in a blue moon. He did on the other hand talked a lot to his brother from where we found out more about his activities there. But as said by my oldest son his youngest only friend is him.
Now that another day has passed him not calling us and only a I am fine on facebook it makes me wonder did I chose the worse solution to deal with how tiresome he was? How did you all dealt with you child's curiosity and well that something that makes at least some parents tired?