If a family friend type 'relative' has a grandchild getting married, and you won't be invited to the wedding, are you obligated to send a gift? Family would like me to make something, but I don't know the girl, or her intended/baby daddy, and honestly couldn't pick her out of a crowd of three. I probably would not mind stitching something, but her dad and mom did a LOT to keep me from even knowing their kids in spite of my parents treating her dad like their child for most of his life. It feels phony to invest so much of my time in something for someone who's parents purposely kept me out of their lives for zero reason that I know of. Last time I saw her she was six, and she wanted everything to be either pink or purple. That is ALL I know of her. Would you bother? I don't even think she knows my name, to be honest.