our friendship with another couple has been a little strained largely due to being invited very last minute to their son’s wedding. Some odd circumstances. Hurtful. I’ve posted before. Their daughter (healthy) has been long term friends with ours who is a Difficult Child. Friend is engaged. She told me herself that she is considering asking our daughter to be in the wedding. Asked my opinion. I said it should be ok and that I would help...making sure her medications are ideal etc. In the mean time I know full well her parents are against this idea. Seems her parents put their foot down. The mom (my friend) came out and told me they do not want our daughter in the wedding, but would like to give her a job to do (at the wedding) so she feels a part of the activities and in honor of their friendship. I’m a little hurt, but understand a tiny bit. I’m conflicted and pained by it all. I can understand to a certain extent since they e known our daughter for decades and have heard some strange stories. But they do seem like bullies. What recent things have revealed to us with them is a lot of superficiality, pretence etc. But I tell ya, if they do not give her a job to do to feel part of the wedding...something to make her feel special (this was the idea of the parents ...our friends) then I will be furious. Would you? Is all this bizarre as heck? PS Due to the personal nature of this there is a small chance I may ask for this thread to be removed.