mrscatinthehat
Seussical
some of what is going to happen with difficult child 2.
We went to visit him yesterday. This was the first actual visit at the detention center that they have been holding him in. Not exactly a fun moment to say the least. Then we talked with T. From what I am gathering from him he is looking forward to his move to the next placement. I use that term loosely. He has read their handbook and "knows" how so much is going to work.
He was talking of his GED. I had been contributing only nominally to this visit as my stomach was doing the unhappy dance and I didn't want to be trapped in a locked room and have to purge on the floor. When he mentioned GED that got my attention. I asked if he thought he would not be attending school there. He said he didn't know but that most "guys" that go there just get their GEDs. I said I see and left it at that. Then he told husband that he can take drivers ed there so that when he comes home he will get his license. I didn't say anything but thought to myself I didn't know he was coming to my home again. 
Well today we met with the JCO. We asked about where he was going. And were told that he was going where we didn't want him to go. Ok. We were told they have a very good program there for what T needs. Ok. Then the guy wanted background. I smiled looked at husband and started rambling essentially. He would ask for fill in information here and there. But truthfully the best parts were when we could make this man speechless. Then get the did that really happen questions to follow. I asked if he had gotten the information from dhs yet. He said no. I said it should all be in there.
He told us of Tourette's Syndrome visit with him. That T expects to be home soon and working with husband and husband's brother. I found that amusing. I don't know why.
He did inform us we are a minority on how involved we are and still plan to be. That most parents do just walk away. (That certainly wasn't new.)
So when we go to court on the 7th of February they will send T to his new place. I doubt it will accomplish anything but hey who am I. T thinks he can just "do his time" and then be home. He really doesn't think that there will be treatment this go around.
The one thing that bothered me some was the JCO saying that it was too early to talk about when T turns 18. T will be 15 in March. That is three years. I don't want it to get here and then have someone say blam there he is you get him back. Not gonna happen with the way I am currently looking at things.
About the one positive I can say is that this is a locked facility. We will have to wait and see how things go when he gets there. The will send us a package of information after he gets there on what will be expected of us etc. I am not real excited about this new chapter but will be interested to see how the pages turn.
Beth
We went to visit him yesterday. This was the first actual visit at the detention center that they have been holding him in. Not exactly a fun moment to say the least. Then we talked with T. From what I am gathering from him he is looking forward to his move to the next placement. I use that term loosely. He has read their handbook and "knows" how so much is going to work.
He was talking of his GED. I had been contributing only nominally to this visit as my stomach was doing the unhappy dance and I didn't want to be trapped in a locked room and have to purge on the floor. When he mentioned GED that got my attention. I asked if he thought he would not be attending school there. He said he didn't know but that most "guys" that go there just get their GEDs. I said I see and left it at that. Then he told husband that he can take drivers ed there so that when he comes home he will get his license. I didn't say anything but thought to myself I didn't know he was coming to my home again. Well today we met with the JCO. We asked about where he was going. And were told that he was going where we didn't want him to go. Ok. We were told they have a very good program there for what T needs. Ok. Then the guy wanted background. I smiled looked at husband and started rambling essentially. He would ask for fill in information here and there. But truthfully the best parts were when we could make this man speechless. Then get the did that really happen questions to follow. I asked if he had gotten the information from dhs yet. He said no. I said it should all be in there.
He told us of Tourette's Syndrome visit with him. That T expects to be home soon and working with husband and husband's brother. I found that amusing. I don't know why.
He did inform us we are a minority on how involved we are and still plan to be. That most parents do just walk away. (That certainly wasn't new.)
So when we go to court on the 7th of February they will send T to his new place. I doubt it will accomplish anything but hey who am I. T thinks he can just "do his time" and then be home. He really doesn't think that there will be treatment this go around.
The one thing that bothered me some was the JCO saying that it was too early to talk about when T turns 18. T will be 15 in March. That is three years. I don't want it to get here and then have someone say blam there he is you get him back. Not gonna happen with the way I am currently looking at things.
About the one positive I can say is that this is a locked facility. We will have to wait and see how things go when he gets there. The will send us a package of information after he gets there on what will be expected of us etc. I am not real excited about this new chapter but will be interested to see how the pages turn.
Beth
