Unreal. Seriously. Seems M will be moving in with katie unless manager comes up with yet another excuse. Gimme a break. Anyone else? This would sooooo not be happening. Has to be a higher power at work here. Been having long chats with katie these past few days. This mornings was an eye opener. I dont' ask about M. Honestly I'm trying the old bury the head in the sand over him. Not working, but I'm trying, cuz I really would rather not know. I am so sick of dealing with the likes of him I'm very close to introducing him to bff's husband. Now that would be a sight. Nice quiet visit in an alley........ But I resist temptation. Still keeps me sane knowing bff's hubby owes me out the wazoo over what he pulled with Nichole, I know I can always play that card if push comes to shove. (most likely never will, but dreaming about it keeps me from doing something stupid myself) Not only did she tell me she got the paper that says it's ok for M to live with them......she tells me that the past few weeks have been a real eye opener for her. She's realized that she can manage on her own just fine. She's realized that she doesn't need M even to keep her company. She's realized she can parent the kids just grand without him. Ding! Ding! Ding! Now that's somethin'. Just a lil bud of somethin' but hey will take what I can get. Then she says that M is a good person (ok gag me, don't see it, do see what might have been possible ages ago if someone had taken the time but yeah) but he has a LOT to prove to her. And that HE has a lot to learn. Hmm. Not exactly what she means by that but can say I agree. I just don't see that happening at his age. I was careful what I wrote back. Seems like if she is separated from him even for a short time she can begin to see him as he is........I don't want to make her feel like she has to defend him or it's gonna put her back to square one again. Did tell her I hope to see her find what katie wants/needs, to go back to school like she wanted, ect. I didn't dwell on M at all........mostly that she should be doing things for herself to grow and mature and find happiness. Then I added: I tried to bring her attention to the drastic changes I've seen in both her and the kids in M's absence without stressing the M part of it. If change is what she wants, the powers that be have decided she's gonna have to prove how bad she wants it. Evidently she's not going to get the non confrontational method she might have been hoping for. And you know what? I think that is necessary. If she can't learn to stand up to M and tell him like it is straight from the heart without worry of repercussions.......she'll never have the backbone to truly stand on her own. She'll just fall for another guy (maybe much worse) just like him. So, just gonna pray while she's hopefully learning this lesson.........and hopefully finding herself.......M doesn't manage to muck up her 2nd chance. That she doesn't let him muck it up.