Well you all were right my difficult child had a good time playing with toys and being the center of attention.
She diagnosed him with what she thinks is Adjustment disorder and conduct disorder, however she says he may be adhd but we are waiting for a few more visits.
Play therapy weekly and apparently I should discipline him like any other child (even though it does not work)
I feel a bit better for now, till the next incident I guess. Met with his school today and they seem to be willing to work with me, I guess time will tell becasue they all seem a little unsure of how to deal with it, although so am I at times!
Thanks for the support everyone, its truly appreciated.