About calling the police - husband & I both think this is crazy, but then that isn't how it's done here, so having police involved unless there is a major crime, doesn't seem right here.
I still remember the outrage here over that video of the little girl who had the police called and who got handcuffed, because she had a meltdown in the classroom. The general consensus in Australia was, "There are so many things that could have been done before calling the cops, and there was NEVER a need for handcuffs!"
So please bear in mind, any advice I have for you is influenced by two things -
1) my horror that there could even be a risk of my child being handcuffed, merely for doing what any kid would under those conditions
2) my lack of understanding of a system that has any sort of regular police involvement in discipline issues.
I think it has got to the stage where this principal just wants Wee gone. But she also doesn't get that this is far more than simply a discipline issue and she is determined to "not give in" to either your "demands" or Wee's needs. This principal, in other words, has developed ODD. She is being oppositional because the circumstances have taught her to be; in order to keep some sense of self, and some sense of "I am supposed to be the one in charge here," she has clamped down on change and is determinedly refusing, oon principle, to listen to you, or to anyone who says, "You have done it wrong, you need to be doing it this way."
So no matter how much you really are trying to help, this principal is mentally shut down. Can't cope.
Time to go over her head so much that she feels she has athlete's scalp.
Do it now, do it hard, do it in writing. And focus on Wee's identified medially diagnosed needs not only not being met, but actively being discriminated against in preventing him to have access to the education that the law requires.In your letters make it clear that the staff who have been helpful and who are prepared to work with Wee, are NOT the problem here. The problem isn't even the principal - the problem is, you have a child whose needs are very specific and therefore the school needs to make a lot more accommodations to meet those needs. You need an education system that should support your son at a high level, in order to make it possible for the school to do their job. Push the law, push human rights and support those staff who are at least trying to learn. The rest - let them take whatever flak gets thrown their way by other people. The rope they'll get hung with is the rope they wove for themselves.
Marg