difficult child 2 (currently in 6th grade at a public elementary school) has never had 504 accommodations or an IEP in spite of a diagnosis of anxiety and mood dysregulation (lengthy letter written by treating child psychiatrist provided to school district as well as full battery of neuropsychologist testing). In 5th grade she was a straight-A student; this year her grades have fallen to Bs and Cs. The school has scheduled an Educational Management Team (EMT) meeting April 26 to determine if she now qualifies for 504 accommodations in preparation for transitioning her to middle school next fall. For a variety of reasons, we have decided to enroll difficult child 2 in a small progressive private school that concentrates on the arts rather than send her to our 1,000-student public middle school. Her current school does not know of our plans (although two of her teachers were asked to write recommendations). Our advocate has recommended that we not tell the school we're leaving the public school system before the EMT meeting. The advocate thinks the disclosure will jeopardize our chances of obtaining the 504, and we need the 504 for two reasons: 1) in the event difficult child 2 ever returns to the public school system; and 2) in the event we need to share the 504 accommodations with the new private school. husband and I are not comfortable with this approach. First, we believe in being honest with school administrators with whom we have a good working relationship. Second, easy child will be at this school for 3 more years. She has a 504 plan and will need these administrators to continue to support and advocate for her. We believe school administrators will no longer trust us if we do not fully disclose our plans with difficult child 2. We do want very much to have on the record the need to accommodate difficult child 2's emotional needs. Is there a way to accomplish this without jeopardizing our chances at the 504 by being honest? Thanks in advance for any advice.