Have you been there? When our 21 year old lived at home she was very, very sloppy and disorganized. That habit continues in her own place, too. She lost her Social Security card. She has misplaced the items necessary to replace it. It becomes a cyclical thing, you need this to secure a replacement for that and so on. She phoned me this afternoon, thinking that I can request a replaced SS card for her because I am her parent. Social Security will not allow that, nor would I consider doing it. Her tone got nasty and she said some choice words. That was the end of our conversation. Why do our kids sometimes think that treating us like garbage will generate anything positive?