Hi again, its me the confused mom....
OK so my social is going to meet my son next Tuesday. I asked her how and when to tell him. Oh my dear lovely daughter told him that if he doesnt get better, that mommy and daddy are going to send you to a therapist. So needless to say he isnt too thrilled with the idea. I told that a therapist is a great person, that they try and unscramble your brain and help you with your "angry's" I told him if we cant help him, that we may have to go see one, he screamed
So she said not to tell him that we couldnt help him and off we go to see her. She said to tell him where we are going, when, and why. She suggested that we tell him that we have been talking to her for some help and that she wants to meet him. Originally she couldnt see him for quite awhile because of his school and her schedule is booked for afterschool, I said I dont mind taking him out of school if it means you meeting him earlier. (I only have 8 fully covered visits with her) She didnt want to take him out of his routine, I said I'll deal.
My dilema is when to tell him. If I tell him now I fear he will worry and worry until then and maybe be angry for a week when I tell him. If I tell him say the day before I will feel like I am springing it on him and he may feel blind sided. I dunno when to tell him, any thoughts?
I also have to come up with a plan for when we go to the neuro psychiatric evaluation that is June 21.
thank you
amy
OK so my social is going to meet my son next Tuesday. I asked her how and when to tell him. Oh my dear lovely daughter told him that if he doesnt get better, that mommy and daddy are going to send you to a therapist. So needless to say he isnt too thrilled with the idea. I told that a therapist is a great person, that they try and unscramble your brain and help you with your "angry's" I told him if we cant help him, that we may have to go see one, he screamed
So she said not to tell him that we couldnt help him and off we go to see her. She said to tell him where we are going, when, and why. She suggested that we tell him that we have been talking to her for some help and that she wants to meet him. Originally she couldnt see him for quite awhile because of his school and her schedule is booked for afterschool, I said I dont mind taking him out of school if it means you meeting him earlier. (I only have 8 fully covered visits with her) She didnt want to take him out of his routine, I said I'll deal.
My dilema is when to tell him. If I tell him now I fear he will worry and worry until then and maybe be angry for a week when I tell him. If I tell him say the day before I will feel like I am springing it on him and he may feel blind sided. I dunno when to tell him, any thoughts?
I also have to come up with a plan for when we go to the neuro psychiatric evaluation that is June 21.
thank you
amy