Greetings..~smiles~
We have pretty much run the length of the ship with difficult child in attempts to alter or stop alot of his bad choices and behaviors..(stealing and more recently obsession with fire being the most expedient to stop). No matter what we say, what tone, what punishments (and really we have flat out ran the gammut here over the course of 5yrs)..nothing seems to make it click for him that these choices/behaviors can not be tolerated or allowed.
It is as if he continues them despite all odds until he gets bored of doing it, and moves onto something else. He often complains now that he's always in trouble, and to this he pretty much is correct because he does something else (example: grounded to room, and while in room sets fire to paper and a piece of cloth by putting them on hot lights despite having been told just 2 days prior Not to put anything on the lights as it could cause a fire).
We can handle now the tantrums over everything, getting up, taking a bath, brushing teeth, doing homework, etc. We can handle extra work and mentoring to assist in his schoolastic situations.
What we can't handle are the repeated stealing offenses (before obsession with fire it was cell phones, and shoes from anyone's home).
Looking for some out of the ordinary discipline techniques that anyone has found that will or has made a difference with their difficult child because we are currently at the bottom of the barrel, and considering seeking law enforcement involvement and more recently quick precise spankings being used. I do not like spanking him but nothing else is working, and it was the only other thing that could think of that I know he doesn't like, and that would allow him swift punishment and be done with it..(due to his always feeling he's in trouble which led to us being heavily concerned with depression signs).
He does get in trouble at school almost daily for something but usually can temper it down to avoid the principals office, and I am currently speaking with his bio-dad about insurance coverage to seek a neuropsychologist evaluation.
Well Wishes
shaile
We have pretty much run the length of the ship with difficult child in attempts to alter or stop alot of his bad choices and behaviors..(stealing and more recently obsession with fire being the most expedient to stop). No matter what we say, what tone, what punishments (and really we have flat out ran the gammut here over the course of 5yrs)..nothing seems to make it click for him that these choices/behaviors can not be tolerated or allowed.
It is as if he continues them despite all odds until he gets bored of doing it, and moves onto something else. He often complains now that he's always in trouble, and to this he pretty much is correct because he does something else (example: grounded to room, and while in room sets fire to paper and a piece of cloth by putting them on hot lights despite having been told just 2 days prior Not to put anything on the lights as it could cause a fire).
We can handle now the tantrums over everything, getting up, taking a bath, brushing teeth, doing homework, etc. We can handle extra work and mentoring to assist in his schoolastic situations.
What we can't handle are the repeated stealing offenses (before obsession with fire it was cell phones, and shoes from anyone's home).
Looking for some out of the ordinary discipline techniques that anyone has found that will or has made a difference with their difficult child because we are currently at the bottom of the barrel, and considering seeking law enforcement involvement and more recently quick precise spankings being used. I do not like spanking him but nothing else is working, and it was the only other thing that could think of that I know he doesn't like, and that would allow him swift punishment and be done with it..(due to his always feeling he's in trouble which led to us being heavily concerned with depression signs).
He does get in trouble at school almost daily for something but usually can temper it down to avoid the principals office, and I am currently speaking with his bio-dad about insurance coverage to seek a neuropsychologist evaluation.
Well Wishes
shaile