My son turns 25 today. We have always had a difficult time with him. He had a substance abuse problem at 12 and was diagnosed with a bipolar condition. He was admitted to a residentials treatment center for most of his high school years where he was successfully treated for the substance abuse problems and put on a regiment of antidepressants which actually worked. He graduated from high school, started his own very successful computer business, and became a "model" son. Two years ago our eldest daughter passed away unexpectedly from a brain hemorrhage. Our whole family is still trying to recover (we have another son too) but we are functional. A few months after our daughter's death, our son met and fell in love with this woman who is not good for him. After 5 years of sobriety, he is drinking and smoking and I'm not sure what else. She uses him for money. As soon as he runs out of money she breaks up with him and gets him back when he has something she wants. He is now broke and in legal trouble. He does not live at home but calls us to rescue him when he is in trouble. He came home for a few weeks and lied to us and stole money from our checking account and pawned my wedding rings. We bought him a plane ticket to Florida where we thought he was going to start over. We are just trying to help him stay out of jail -he has 2 more months of probation - but we are getting the idea that he has played us again and has gone back to the girlfriend. I am worried sick - I have already lost one child and feel like he is lost. My husband and I don't know what to do. We just want peace in our life and he keeps drawing us back into the drama of his messed up life.