I just had a third phone call of the day from 'concerned parties' related to my difficult child and his attitude, behaviour and sport career. That was after I listened laymen's ideas about the matter all day at the picnic. (We have a national holiday today and everyone and their cousins were gathered to few parks for picnic and in that park there were probably 80 % of all people we do know and everyone have a story about how awesome their super easy child's are doing and comment on how bad difficult child's last season was and what should be done to correct it.) Everyone seems to know so well what we should do and how I should make difficult child this or that. I wasn't able to make the whelp eat his broccoli or stay at school when he was nine! How on earth I'm supposed to make him be professional, mature beyond his years, have a great and positive attitude, be humble and work hard and what not, when he is nineteen?!? Having a huge hangover from last night's Walburgis Night parties with the friends (very deceptive punch they had) that few glasses of bubbly during the picnic only postponed, isn't helping. And it seems that hangover is that makes also those people who have some understanding of the situation to call (well, difficult child's current positional coach sounded still more drunk than hangovered.) Okay, I feel all warm and fuzzy that they do care, but if them talking to difficult child themselves isn't helping, how they expect me talking to him to help? Especially when I'm not exactly feeling like the model mom of the year right now with hangover and lost shoe and some lost memories from last night. And it was a nice shoe too! I think I may be able to find it. It probably got lost while I was piggybacking husband on our way home from beach. I'm quite sure husband checked I had everything on me after skinny-dipping to the sea (yeah, that was perfectly rational idea, after all, it is practically summer now, sea has been free from ice almost whole week now and I'm sure water may well be 40 F already.) So just now I'm not feeling much like playing the voice of reason to difficult child. Especially when I can't say I would be too sorry. I do hope I find that shoe and that husband stops teasing me about my Cinderella act some time before next Christmas, but we certainly had fun. All things difficult child then again are not fun at all. difficult child isn't even speaking to his current positional coach (yeah, he will be transferred out from the team during summer but still) and is strongly siding with his last year's positional coach, who is also not in terms with current one, in their petty rivalry. And while the current one mostly wants me to talk some sense to difficult child so he would even try to co-operate, the former one thinks that current one was a big reason for difficult child's bad year on the field. He may even have a point in thinking that coach making difficult child work almost solely with his weaknesses on and off the field was a reason for difficult child's loss of self-confidence. But how am I supposed to make sure he is transferred to the team there positional coach knows how to play with difficult child's strengths instead of getting too stuck with his weaknesses? It is just all so blah and out of my hands and still people keep carrying it to my hands and expecting me to have some answers.