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My grandson recently relapsed and is staying on his mom's couch until he can get a room somewhere.
He got a job in one day - the only problem is that it is low paying AND a 1099 job - which I believe is illegal (he doesn't understand those things yet). This is where I need support. He is doing construction and there is no way it would be a 1099 job - I know that, but he doesn't. I asked him about paying taxes and he said he is living "one day at a time," in an effort to stay sober - and I can't argue with that.
I need to let this go and focus on what is good. He is evidently sober. He has a roof over his head (even though he says it's not a good situation) . . .
My pattern is to notice things, then worry, then try to educate him. I need to break that pattern and trust that all will work out and that he will learn his lessons in time.
There are so many aspects of his life to worry about: His sobriety, his health/no insurance, his living situation, his car, his legal concerns, his bills, etc., etc. Once I start, it just escalates. I take care of problems in my life one at a time - he has ignored his and then gets overwhelmed. That is his business.
I need support to stop panicking about everything he tells me because I have a response to just about everything.
Thanks
He got a job in one day - the only problem is that it is low paying AND a 1099 job - which I believe is illegal (he doesn't understand those things yet). This is where I need support. He is doing construction and there is no way it would be a 1099 job - I know that, but he doesn't. I asked him about paying taxes and he said he is living "one day at a time," in an effort to stay sober - and I can't argue with that.
I need to let this go and focus on what is good. He is evidently sober. He has a roof over his head (even though he says it's not a good situation) . . .
My pattern is to notice things, then worry, then try to educate him. I need to break that pattern and trust that all will work out and that he will learn his lessons in time.
There are so many aspects of his life to worry about: His sobriety, his health/no insurance, his living situation, his car, his legal concerns, his bills, etc., etc. Once I start, it just escalates. I take care of problems in my life one at a time - he has ignored his and then gets overwhelmed. That is his business.
I need support to stop panicking about everything he tells me because I have a response to just about everything.
Thanks