Ironically, i asked STBX the other day if he would lawyer up son for a crime (drugs, sex, or stealing)
know son was committing same crime in the a.m., and show to court with him in the p.m.
He answered DEFINITELY. I WOULD LET THEM KNOW I LOVED THEM UNCONDITIONALLY.
He says I don't love my children because I have "conditions" regarding their behaviors.
I then said well he's hurting other people. He said those parents can take care of
heir own problems. I'm thinking, "can they really?"
Whatever....
See, I guess I am saying that you are setting "precedent" that no bad will come to him because you tolerated/enabled/covered for it (the drugs). Will he turn to you for more
of the same in the future? How will you feel if their are future consequences to him
because you didn't make your stand. How will he know to have his stand/boundaries with
anyone else in his life when he leaves home?
Yup, positively I would turn him in.
Definitely since he is difficult child, siblings, court involvement, & his justification of illegal activity,
I wouldn't think twice. No doubt about it.
On a lighter side, youngest had a friend who's sister (14) brought some home on night.
It was replaced with Weed Be Gone, posted onto her facebook and the punishment was
that she had to keep the picture there. Everyone teased her about it. That was three years ago and people still tease her. She's never brought it home again. Still uses it, but knows her parents won't have it in the home by her or anyone. She was told that if it
ever occurred again she'd be living someplace else.