Hi- I just found this forum tonight. I was seriously thinking that I was the only one in the world with these issues, and it must be because I am an awful mother.
My son is 10. Wow...where to even begin. He has been on ADHD medications since he was 5 and getting kicked out of Kindergarten. We have done Metadate, Concerta, Ritalin, Adderal. The works. He now takes Vyvanse and just recently his Pshchiatrist put him on Abilify. He is also diagnosed with ODD. I really think he is BiPolar (BP), but the Psychiatrist said no. Who knows.
He is so mean and disrespectful. If you put any limits on him he will freak out. You never know whether its just going to be a verbal barrage of mean statements or develop into a full blown rage. Wow...the rages are intense and violent and out of control. His entire room at his dads house has to be re-sheetrocked, he has broken just about everything he has, he broke my rib once....etc. Then once he as chilled out he cries and says sorry and he loves me etc etc.
He lies about homework, he just recently started stealing money. Today he told me he earned $6 for shoveling walks after school. Amazingly, there is $6 missing from our cash jar at home. And he freaked because we said no to taking his $6 to Walmart.
I just started anxiety medications, Im not dealing well.
Im at my wits end. I dont know what to do. I dont know how to set and keep limits with these horrible reactions. I dont want to be a pushover mom, but sometimes I just dont have the mental energy to deal with the fight....and a possible rage. The psychiatrist just gets sarcastic with me and says maybe if I cant handle it I should look at boarding schools.
Does anybody have any suggestions?
My son is 10. Wow...where to even begin. He has been on ADHD medications since he was 5 and getting kicked out of Kindergarten. We have done Metadate, Concerta, Ritalin, Adderal. The works. He now takes Vyvanse and just recently his Pshchiatrist put him on Abilify. He is also diagnosed with ODD. I really think he is BiPolar (BP), but the Psychiatrist said no. Who knows.
He is so mean and disrespectful. If you put any limits on him he will freak out. You never know whether its just going to be a verbal barrage of mean statements or develop into a full blown rage. Wow...the rages are intense and violent and out of control. His entire room at his dads house has to be re-sheetrocked, he has broken just about everything he has, he broke my rib once....etc. Then once he as chilled out he cries and says sorry and he loves me etc etc.
He lies about homework, he just recently started stealing money. Today he told me he earned $6 for shoveling walks after school. Amazingly, there is $6 missing from our cash jar at home. And he freaked because we said no to taking his $6 to Walmart.
I just started anxiety medications, Im not dealing well.
Im at my wits end. I dont know what to do. I dont know how to set and keep limits with these horrible reactions. I dont want to be a pushover mom, but sometimes I just dont have the mental energy to deal with the fight....and a possible rage. The psychiatrist just gets sarcastic with me and says maybe if I cant handle it I should look at boarding schools.
Does anybody have any suggestions?