Yes, A Positive update on SB

Discussion in 'Parent Emeritus' started by Mrs.McNear51, Aug 29, 2011.

  1. Mrs.McNear51

    Mrs.McNear51 Member

    It's been a tough 2 yrs., but I think she's finally maturing. Looking at life thru adult eyes...Wow~ After 2 yrs. of couch hoping, SB has been living and paying rent in the same place for 4 months. She has a job at the newest, restaurant in town, where she's excelling. She hasn't missed a shift, and seems to be letting go of a life that was so self destructive. New friends, just pot, and limited drinking. The biggest change I see in her, is that she has let go of the anger. No more blaming me for all the horrible, terrible things that happened to her, letting go of the anger that held her back. Accountability. A normal new boyfriend to boot.

    Of course, it's only been 4 months, but for the first time, she's making steps forward...that is so big for her and I'm sleeping much better these days. Have I stopped holding my breath? Not quite yet. I have changed my approach, not taking about the past- hugs, kisses and high fives now. Lunches, talks, being with the young woman I knew she could be. One step at a time. Being her mom and encouraging instead of bailing out. It's wonderful.

    I have never let go of HOPE and only by the Grace of God, do I feel she's made it this far. Just thought I'd share some good news.

    Love and Blessings to All,

  2. crazymama30

    crazymama30 Active Member

    I am glad to see she is doing well. Take all the good days you can, and I hope there are lots.
  3. Nancy

    Nancy Well-Known Member Staff Member

    I'm thrilled for both of you.

  4. Hound dog

    Hound dog Nana's are Beautiful


    I'm so thrilled for you both!! No, 4 months isn't very long, but it's certainly a start! I hope she continues to mature and make good choices.

    What a wonderful update! :)

  5. KTMom91

    KTMom91 Well-Known Member

    What a great update, Julie!
  6. lovemysons

    lovemysons Well-Known Member

    Julie, I'm so happy for you all.

    by the way...Have been praying for you and yours too. I am sorry I have not replied to your fb messege yet.
    I have been overwhelmed lately with young difficult child issues.

    Love you,
  7. Mom2oddson

    Mom2oddson Active Member

    Very good news!! I hope she stays on this path!
  8. busywend

    busywend Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Wonderful, wonderful, wonderful!!! ENJOY!!
  9. DDD

    DDD Well-Known Member

    Ditto. Ditto. DDD
  10. DammitJanet

    DammitJanet Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Wow...just wonderful! How old is SB now? Is she closing in on the mid twenties by chance? That frontal lobe starts maturing more quickly during the 22, 23 years and is pretty much set by 24/25.

    I really hope this is a new day and a new dawn for you all.
  11. Star*

    Star* call 911

    Way To Go! Hugs always --------sending more angels.

  12. FlowerGarden

    FlowerGarden Active Member

    Great news. So happy for you!
  13. Chaosuncontained

    Chaosuncontained New Member

    I do not know your story. But it made me happy to read such a postivie update. It gives me hope...
  14. Signorina

    Signorina Guest

    :) love good news
  15. Blondiesbf

    Blondiesbf New Member

    I'm so happy for you! May there be more positive updates from everyone here in the future.

    Never, ever let go of hope!