I was worried about difficult child because she called me sobbing today about how terrible the halfway house was and how depressed she was and made veiled threats about hurting herself. husband and I met her at the local grocery store to buy her cigarettes and food and she put on a great act of being scared and lost. She kept telling us that she was in a black hole and tired of waking up feeling so sad.
I was worried because I knew she had that bottle of benadryl so I took another poster's advice to call the halfway house to check on her. You will never believe what I was told . . .
The director listened to my concerns and then said that difficult child had come back there after her little act with me and gone out with a roommate. I explained my concern about the benadryl and he said, "Oh, that's why she slept the whole time she was here yesterday." Then he said, "You know that she is here as a renter, right?" I asked what he meant and he said that there were people that were there as part of the program where they had curfews, drug testing, and mandatory meetings and there were people there as just renters with no rules that just wanted to live in a sober environment.
I was floored. difficult child had told me that she was required to go to the meetings and had curfews and drug tests. The director said that he was under the understanding that she was going to be part of the program until she got there and said that she was just a renter. He also said that since I was paying that if I said that she had to be part of the program she would have to follow all of the program rules.
He asked for her phone number and was going to call her and tell her that and was going to drug test her when she returned.
Here I was feeling terrible that she was so sad and depressed and she was lying the whole time. The director told me how lucky she was that she had a car and someone paying for the rent and food since most people there had nothing.
When will I ever learn?? Now what do we do?
~Kathy
I was worried because I knew she had that bottle of benadryl so I took another poster's advice to call the halfway house to check on her. You will never believe what I was told . . .
The director listened to my concerns and then said that difficult child had come back there after her little act with me and gone out with a roommate. I explained my concern about the benadryl and he said, "Oh, that's why she slept the whole time she was here yesterday." Then he said, "You know that she is here as a renter, right?" I asked what he meant and he said that there were people that were there as part of the program where they had curfews, drug testing, and mandatory meetings and there were people there as just renters with no rules that just wanted to live in a sober environment.
I was floored. difficult child had told me that she was required to go to the meetings and had curfews and drug tests. The director said that he was under the understanding that she was going to be part of the program until she got there and said that she was just a renter. He also said that since I was paying that if I said that she had to be part of the program she would have to follow all of the program rules.
He asked for her phone number and was going to call her and tell her that and was going to drug test her when she returned.
Here I was feeling terrible that she was so sad and depressed and she was lying the whole time. The director told me how lucky she was that she had a car and someone paying for the rent and food since most people there had nothing.
When will I ever learn?? Now what do we do?
~Kathy
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