freezedried74
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Hello I have a 13 y/o son who has always been a challenge. He started as a colicky infant and has always had trouble with empathy and understanding how other people feel. He is a straight A student and has friends that he gets along with. His behavior at school is excellent. He plays music at a very high level in a symphony orchestra and he likes to be active as well as playing video games etc. I would say that in most aspects of his life he is doing extremely well.
The issue is his behavior at home especially when dad is not there. Son and mom do not get along well. He constantly questions her authority and wants everything done his way. If things do not go as he planned or he is inconvenienced he gets frustrated and begins acting out. If mom tries to reprimand him he will be defiant. This will include arguing, mimicking, or picking on his sisters. He is not violent but is very smart and can be manipulative. We are actively seeing a counselor but we are just getting into that. Punishments do not seem to have any effect.
Mom is a psychologist and dad works swing shift in a lab. Both parents are very involved in all their kids activities and share responsibilities. Mom is a very empathetic person and dad has issues with understanding empathy like his son but dad has gotten better with this. Parents do not believe in violence so punishments typically are loss of privileges.
Dad very often acts as a mediator between mom and son but often mediation happens after incident has occurred. Dad and mom have talked about possibly starting medications for son but struggle with this since son's behavior is fine at school. Mom and dad have thought son might be a borderline aspie child. Looking for help for our family.
Dad
The issue is his behavior at home especially when dad is not there. Son and mom do not get along well. He constantly questions her authority and wants everything done his way. If things do not go as he planned or he is inconvenienced he gets frustrated and begins acting out. If mom tries to reprimand him he will be defiant. This will include arguing, mimicking, or picking on his sisters. He is not violent but is very smart and can be manipulative. We are actively seeing a counselor but we are just getting into that. Punishments do not seem to have any effect.
Mom is a psychologist and dad works swing shift in a lab. Both parents are very involved in all their kids activities and share responsibilities. Mom is a very empathetic person and dad has issues with understanding empathy like his son but dad has gotten better with this. Parents do not believe in violence so punishments typically are loss of privileges.
Dad very often acts as a mediator between mom and son but often mediation happens after incident has occurred. Dad and mom have talked about possibly starting medications for son but struggle with this since son's behavior is fine at school. Mom and dad have thought son might be a borderline aspie child. Looking for help for our family.
Dad
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