threegirls
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I am looking for some advice. My 19 year old daugher left for college last fall. She goes to school on the west coast, we live on the east. Her 60k a year school costs us less than 10 because she has worked her ass off and is a brilliant biochem/mollecular biology double major. She is home for the summer, and her friedn came to vist, and brought pot brownies, which she decided to eat. I took one look at her and knew something was up. She admitted it. Now I am in the conundrum of how to proceed. I have grounded her, sort of, let her have people over, but not letting her spend the night out, etc. Limited the car use to and from work or to pick up a friend to come over. She is a really good kid, but telling me she has been making all of her own decisions since last august, and takes care of herself and feels like I am treating her like she is 12. I explained she violated a major trust issue (she ate them in my home), made a stupid decision, and has to suffer some consequences for that. I explained that though she has been taking care of herself, it is with our finances, and expescially while she is home, she is still under our rules and repercussions. She is very angry, and I have always had a great relationship with her, and I feel like I am pushing her away. Please, any advice as to how to proceed would be appricated.