hi i found this website so helpful i am back. i have a 19 yr old son who is obviously troubled and withdrawn. he is not suicidal, but depressed and out of sorts. this is our third adult child now and you would think we would know what to do by now. He is thoughtful, caring, charming and we are very proud of him. He holds himself well in society. He is very well thought of in every aspect of his life, but he is suffering inside. he wont open up anymore. He used to talk to us and tell us whats wrong. Everytime we get to the subject other than every day things like: How was work today? or are you home for tea? he shuts down and avoids the subjects. He is not taking drugs. He lives at home the last one of our kids to fly the nest. We give him all the space he wants. He has a good job and is very loved up with his girlfriend. We have tried all manner of approaches to find out what is wrong. This is not the normal teenager stuff, there is something wrong, we can see it behind his eyes.