Hey gang, I'm usually on here for a much deeper and depressing issue of my son. But lately my daughter is giving me a bit of attitude so I thought I would check in with my wise friends here. She's a good kid, doesn't use drugs or any of that, occasionally will have drinks with friends but extremely responsible. She's going to college, keeps her room and bathroom clean, respectful, has a job, boyfriend, works out. Really a great kid. But. Her father doesn't like her boyfriends bc he was over late one night when my husband hadn't even met him and my husband kinda went off on him and the boyfriend didn't really apologize or try to make things right. So fast forward 8 months and they don't talk and he doesn't come over. Except when we're way sneakily. Another reason hubby doesn't like him. Any way, our rule for kids living at home is no sleeping over boyfriend or girlfriend's house, curfew 2am. Our daughter, sleeps over her boyfriend's all the time, every night. So, hubby told her that she can take over her car payment. She has a nice $20k car we bought her for graduation. He feels that she is disrespecting his rules and he no longer wants to pay for that. We want to continue letting her live at home so she can complete college. We pay for college. We have a large home 3200 sf. I've asked her to sweep, mop and vacuum the whole house once a week. She put up a fit, and then said yes reluctantly. However, she hasn't kept up on it. So I warned her that I would be charging her rent if she can't help around the house. Months go by, she doesn't do the floors. So now we're charging her $200.00 a month for rent. She comes to me last night and says it really makes me mad that you and dad are asking for money when I am struggling you two have plenty of money. I explained to her she wanted freedom to sleep over her boyfriend's and didn't want to clean therefore, freedom ain't free. It's her consequences for her choices. She really thinks we are being unreasonable. So, I ask you all, are we being unreasonable? Is it unheard of to ask a 20 year old to clean and not sleep over her boyfriend's??