He, like Julie, did not tell me about it until it is almost done, but he quit benozos!!!! This was a man who was taking 8 mgs. of Xanax as prescribed and got into at least one accident due to falling asleep while driving. I didn't think you could quit benzos by just reducing them, but he is doing that. First he asked his doctor to switch him to Clonazapan which is much easier to withdraw from, although it's not easy. Then he asked what he should do to get off of it. I guess it was interfering with sex...I mean, there HAD to be a good reason and he hinted at that...lol. So now he is down to 1 mg. of Clonazapen and has not had horrible side effects, really. He has terrible anxiety disorder so if he had suffered much, he would have called me in angst and probably gone right back on. Today he forgot to take it. He called this morning from work and said, "Mom, I'm done. I'm not taking even the small dose ever again." I asked him if he was self-medicating the side effects with alcohol and he said no, he had actually cut his alcohol too for same reason. I have to say that, for whatever reason he did these things, I am grateful. I don't have to worry that he'll overdose on Xanax/alcohol. Could he be lying? I doubt it. I don't talk to him about his drug/alcohol consumption and he didn't really know I was worried. The few times I brought it up, he was so vile and abusive that I figured he needed to do this himself or not and I shut up on the topic. I figured my two cents would not change anything. Been about three years since I've brought it up to him. He still chews (GROSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS!). He tried it once and got hooked the first time so I figured he is an addictive personality. But the chew is the only thing he says he isn't going to quit right now because he can't do everything at once. WEll, he's not QUITTING alcohol, but knowing he is only having one glass after work is a big improvement and I didn't fish for the info. Doesn't mean he has no alcohol problem, just means right now he's not drinking as much. When he's drunk, I can tell. He talks fast, slurs his words, etc. Haven't heard him doing that lately. He is also more abusive when drunk. Anyhow, that's as good as it gets with 36. He has been making small improvement since the custody case. It really shook him up to know he could lose his son if he messes up. I hope this continues. I have no opinion on whether or not it will, but wanted to share some decent news for a change.