Merry Xmas....
Ok.. a LONG synopsis, I wil; try and be brief.
I left my husband of over 10 years 16 months ago.
Currently we have split custody,.. they are with him Sun, Mon, Tes, wed and with me each Th and Fri and every other with-e.Ihave the children EVERY day 3-530.
He lives in our old home and I in an apt.
I work 3 jobs, he 1.
He has stable hours, I do not. I work a reg full time job 7-230 , a small parttime job and work per diem.
My daughter has always had a strong personaility. Independ, strong willed. Does not care what others think.
She has now over the last 16 months escalated and is now hitting, pinching, yelling, profanity and last night hit and yelled and screamed so much and wanted to go her dad's with such passion ... I let her. She has brother, my son who is 6. All behavioral techniques work like textbook with him. Her.. not at all. He is easy going and even tries to protect me.
I see a well known parenting educator.
She, as well as I know she is " "and wants it the way it was.
It IS not however ok to hit and yell and curse at her mother.
I know I need to adhere to new and different strategies with her but it is overwhelming.
Like the pediatrician and the expert, I should not NOT see my boyfriend or work because she cant cope but I need some help.
After the holidays SHe starts seeing her.
I am at wits end.
She hates and is miserable here.
as stated, I have a boyfriend of a year, I see him one time a with-e when I have the kids and 1 time a week for about 15 minutes, no more than an hour when the kids are getting off the bus and then he leaves. She hates him and his children MOST times.. other times not...She is a joy at school, her dads, friends, NEVER with others.. just me.
I feel on one end , let her stay at dad's, I just want to her happy and on the other miss her so much it aches.
Need some tips or any advice.
Its a doubleedged sword...
Thank you.
GOSOX
Ok.. a LONG synopsis, I wil; try and be brief.
I left my husband of over 10 years 16 months ago.
Currently we have split custody,.. they are with him Sun, Mon, Tes, wed and with me each Th and Fri and every other with-e.Ihave the children EVERY day 3-530.
He lives in our old home and I in an apt.
I work 3 jobs, he 1.
He has stable hours, I do not. I work a reg full time job 7-230 , a small parttime job and work per diem.
My daughter has always had a strong personaility. Independ, strong willed. Does not care what others think.
She has now over the last 16 months escalated and is now hitting, pinching, yelling, profanity and last night hit and yelled and screamed so much and wanted to go her dad's with such passion ... I let her. She has brother, my son who is 6. All behavioral techniques work like textbook with him. Her.. not at all. He is easy going and even tries to protect me.
I see a well known parenting educator.
She, as well as I know she is " "and wants it the way it was.
It IS not however ok to hit and yell and curse at her mother.
I know I need to adhere to new and different strategies with her but it is overwhelming.
Like the pediatrician and the expert, I should not NOT see my boyfriend or work because she cant cope but I need some help.
After the holidays SHe starts seeing her.
I am at wits end.
She hates and is miserable here.
as stated, I have a boyfriend of a year, I see him one time a with-e when I have the kids and 1 time a week for about 15 minutes, no more than an hour when the kids are getting off the bus and then he leaves. She hates him and his children MOST times.. other times not...She is a joy at school, her dads, friends, NEVER with others.. just me.
I feel on one end , let her stay at dad's, I just want to her happy and on the other miss her so much it aches.
Need some tips or any advice.
Its a doubleedged sword...
Thank you.
GOSOX